Most Popular Books by Jane Nelsen

THE KEY TO DISCIPLINE IS NOT PUNISHMENT, BUT MUTUAL RESPECT All parents try to do their best--but the best of intentions don''t always produce the best results. Dr. Jane Nelsen, an experienced psychologist, educator, and mother, believes that children misbehave when they feel thwarted in their need to belong and in their need for love and attention. An authoritative approach, using phrases like " Because I said so!" , will only lead to rebellious behavior. Instead, parents need basic principles that bring them and their children closer. They need Positive Discipline. Dr. Nelsen explains that parents who use kindness and firmness to teach life skills will encourage self-respect, self-discipline, cooperation, good behavior, and problem-solving skills in their children. In Positive Discipline, revised and updated for the ''90s, she shows all of us, parents and teachers alike, exactly how her practical program works--answering, step-by-step, such important questions as: *What works better than punishment to teach children positive, good behavior? *What mistakes do most parents make " in the name of love" ? *How can parents turn their mistakes into assets? *How can praise be dangerous? *What are the dangers of trying to be " Super Mom" ? *How can teachers avoid discipline problems in the classroom? " It is positive! It works! It saves your sanity! And it is easy to share with others." --Julie Pope, Parent Sacramento, CA " As a parent and psychotherapist, I have found enormous value and practical wisdom in Positive Discipline. It conveys a win/win atmosphere for parents and children. The techniques are so easy tolearn and fun to use...Anyone following these concepts will see almost instant results and big smiles on the faces of their children." --Katherine Dusay, Psychotherapist San Francisco, CA

MORE THAN 2 MILLION POSITIVE DISCIPLINE BOOKS SOLD The Positive Discipline method has proved to be an invaluable resource for teachers who want to foster creative problem-solving within their students, giving them the behavioral skills they need to understand and process what they learn. In Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers, you will learn how to successfully incorporate respectful, solution-oriented approaches to ensure a cooperative and productive classroom. Using tools like "Connection Before Correction," "Four Problem-Solving Steps," and "Focusing on Solutions," teachers will be able to focus on student-centered learning, rather than wasting time trying to control their students'' behavior. Each tool is specifically tailored for the modern classroom, with examples and positive solutions to each and every roadblock that stands in the way of cooperative learning. Complete with the most up-to-date research on classroom management and the effectiveness of the Positive Discipline method, this comprehensive guide also includes helpful teacher stories and testimonials from around the world. You will learn how to: - Model kind and firm leadership in the classroom - Keep your students involved and intrinsically motivated - Improve students’ self-regulation -And more!

Over 2 Million Positive Discipline Books Sold! A Positive Approach To Helping Children With Special Needs Realize Their Potential Every child deserves to lead a happy and fulfilling life. For parents and teachers of children with special needs, helping their child to not only negotiate daily challenges, but to live fulfilling, meaningful lives, can be the most difficult challenge they will face. Over the years, millions of parents and teachers have come to trust Jane Nelsen’s classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to childrearing. Now, the bestselling series addresses the specific challenges that parents and teachers of children with special needs face, and offers them straightforward advice for supporting them in positive ways. In these pages are practical solutions to challenges such as: Learning to look beyond diagnostic labels ● Believing in each child''s potential regardless of his/her stage of development ● Helping children integrate socially and interact with their peers ● Coping with the frustration that inevitably occurs when a child is being difficult ● Strengthening a child’s sense of belonging and significance ● And Many More! Use this book to answer such questions as: • How do you accommodate a disability, while still teaching a child to try their best? • How do you help a child cope with anger they may have trouble expressing, especially when that anger may on some level be justified? • How do you teach a child who may struggle with seemingly straight forward tasks to contribute to the world around them in a way that will be meaningful to them? “If you are raising or teaching a child with special needs, this book is a must-read. As the mother of a child with autism, my hopes and dreams for my son were no different than those of other parents. I wanted a parenting approach that helped my child grow up to be self confident, happy, and prepared for success in relationships, work, and life. I also needed practical, effective methods for addressing the significant, challenging behaviors I faced on a daily basis. Finally, in this amazing book, I found both….Thank you, thank you, thank you to the authors of this groundbreaking book.” - Rachel Fink Parks, MS, PCC

With the increasing pressure to excel at parenting, work, and personal relationships, it''s easy to feel stressed and dissatisfied. This targeted Positive Discipline guide gives parents the tools to parent effectively without sacrificing their well-being or giving up on their life goals. Instead of creating unachievable expectations, you will instead learn to play to your strengths at work and at home. You’ll integrate your seemingly disparate areas of life and use Positive Discipline to make the most out of your time, energy and relationships. By helping you get to the bottom of the underlying causes of misbehavior, busy parents will also be able to avoid pampering and keep permissive and punitive parenting at bay. Instead of feeling fragmented and guilty, you’ll have the presence of mind to explore what works best for you and your family. Attitude is key – we’ll help you feel confident in your parenting abilities and your professional choices, making your children more likely to adopt an attitude of self-reliance and cooperation. Armed with communication strategies and tips for self-reflection, moms (and dads!) won''t have to feel guilty about leaving their child with a sitter during the day, or leaving work early to go to a soccer game.

Today''s classrooms are filled with children of varied backgrounds, and subject to many intrusive influences. How can teachers foster the essential skills and attitudes for success in their students? In "Positive Discipline in the Classroom, parenting experts Jane Nelsen, Lynn Lott, and H. Stephen Glenn address the popular concept of class meetings, where students and teachers discuss moral, ethical, and behavioral issues, and work together to solve problems. Students learn a number of social skills through the class-meeting process. They learn to listen, take turns, hear different points of view, negotiate, communicate, and take responsibility for their own behavior. It is only when students have these skills and attitudes--the "real "basics"--that reading, writing, and arithmetic can be used meaningfully in their lives.Inside Positive Discipline in the Classroom are chapters on such topics as: - The Positive Discipline Dream - Building Blocks for Successful Class Meetings - Effective Problem-Solving Skills - Classroom Management Skills - Teachers Helping Teachers--Problem-Solving Steps Using these, and other well-presented guidelines, teachers and parents can create a classroom climate that enhances academic learning, and teaches life-skills that are essential to every aspect of a child''s future. About the Authors "Jane Nelsen, Ed. D. is coauthor of the bestseller, "Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World. "Lynn Lott, M.A., M.F.C.C., practices at Summerfield Counseling and Education Services in Santa Rosa, California. "H. Stephen Glenn is coauthor of the bestseller, "Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World.

The celebrated Positive Discipline brand of parenting books presents the revised and updated third edition of their readable and practical guide to communicating boundaries to very young children and solving early discipline problems to set children up for success. Over the years millions of parents have used the amazingly effective strategies of Positive Discipline to raise happy, well-behaved, and successful children. Research has shown that the first three years in a child''s life are a critical moment in their development, and that behavior patterns instilled during that time can have profound implications for the rest of a child''s life. Hundreds of thousands of parents have already used the advice in Positive Discipline: The First Three Years to help set effective boundaries, forge strong foundations for healthy communication, and lay the groundwork for happy and respectful relationships with their young children. Now this classic title has been revised and updated to reflect the latest neuroscientific research and developments in positive discipline parenting techniques.

Teaches parents and cargivers how to use kind and firm methods to raise children who are responsible, respectful, and resourceful.

As a parent, you face one of the most challenging—and rewarding—roles of your life. No matter how much you love your child, there will still be moments filled with anger, frustration, and, at times, desperation. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely updated edition of Positive Discipline A–Z, you will learn how to use methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You’ll find practical solutions to such parenting challenges as: - Sibling Rivalry - Bedtime Hassles - School Problems - Getting Chores Done - ADHD ·Eating Problems - Procrastination - Whining - Tattling and Lying - Homework Battles - And Dozens More! This newly revised and expanded third edition contains up-to-the-minute information on sleeping through the night, back talk, and lack of motivation as well as tips on diet, exercise, and obesity prevention, and new approaches to parenting in the age of computers and cell phones.

The Acclaimed Bestseller That Can Improve Your Classroom Experience Forever! Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commmonsense approach to child rearing. Hundreds of schools also use these amazingly effective strategies for restoring order and civility to today''s turbulent classrooms. Now you too can use this philosophy as a foundation for fostering cooperation, problem-solving skills, and mutual respect in children. Imagine, instead of controlling behavior, you can be teaching; instead of confronting apathy, you will enjoy motivated, eager students! Inside, you''ll discover how to: ·Create a classroom climate that enhances academic learning ·Use encouragement rather than praise and rewards ·Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior through the use of class meetings ·Understand the motivation behind students'' behavior instead of looking for causes ·And much more! Over 1 million Positive Discipline books sold!

A Positive Approach To Raising Happy, Healthy and Mature Teenagers Adolescence can be a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for their parents as well. It’s normal for teens to explore a new sense of freedom and to redefine the ways in which they relate to their parents, and that process can sometimes leave parents feeling powerless, alienated, or excluded from their children’s lives. These effects can be magnified even further in this modern age of social networks, cell phones, and constant digital distraction. This newly revised and updated edition of Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows parents how to build stronger bridges of communication with their children, break the destructive cycles of guilt and blame that occur in parent-teen power struggles, and work toward greater mutual respect with their adolescents. At the core of the Positive Discipline approach is the understanding that teens still need their parents, just in different ways—and by better understanding who their teens really are, parents can learn to encourage both their teens and themselves, and instill good judgment without being judgmental. The methods in this book work to build vital social and life skills through encouragement and empowerment—not punishment. Truly effective parenting is about connection before correction. Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust Jane Nelsen’s classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to raising happy, responsible kids. This new edition is filled with proven, effective methods for coping with such parenting challenges as: -Fostering truly honest discussions with your teen -Helping your teen handle the online world -Turning mistakes into opportunities -Keeping your sanity while raising your teen—and making sure your own teenage issues aren’t weighing you down -Teaching your teen how to pursue the goal that make them happy…and a few that make you happy too (like chores) -Making sure you’re on your teen’s side, and that they know that -Avoiding the pitfalls of excessive control and excessive permissiveness

Completely updated with the latest research in child development and learning, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will help parents understand their preschooler and provide early methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love your child, there will be moments filled with frustration, anger, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my four-year-old deliberately lie to me? Why is everything a struggle with my three-year-old? Should I ever spank my preschooler when she is disobedient? Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the Positive Discipline series and its common-sense approach to child-rearing. This revised and updated fourth edition includes a new chapter on the importance of play and outdoor experiences on child development, along with new information on school readiness, childhood brain growth, and social/emotional learning. You''ll also find practical solutions for how to: - Teach appropriate social skills at an early age - Avoid the power struggles that often come with mastering sleeping, eating, and potty training - See misbehavior as an opportunity to teach nonpunitive discipline--not punishment

While the argument rages between strict and permissive parenting, both sides miss the point. If our goal as parents and educators is to help children become capable adults, then teaching them to make proper decisions and become self-reliant is paramount. With the bestselling classic Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World, authors and educational speakers H. Stephen Glenn and Jane Nelsen have created a book that no parent or teacher can afford to ignore -- an inspiring, workable formula for developing closeness, trust, dignity, and respect, as well as for creating self-discipline, responsibility, good judgment, and perseverance in children. Over the years, this invaluable guide has helped thousand of parents instill children with character-building traits that last a lifetime. Copyright © Libri GmbH. All rights reserved.

Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way (developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen) is a research-based parent education program that provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups.

Do you wish there was a way to raise well-behaved children without punishment? Are you afraid the only alternative is being overly indulgent? With Positive Discipline, an encouragement model based on both kindness and firmness, you don’t have to choose between these two extremes. Using these 49 Positive Discipline tools, honed and perfected after years of real-world research and feedback, you’ll be able to work with your children instead of against them. The goal isn’t perfection but providing you with the techniques you need to help your children develop the life and social skills you hope for them, such as respect for self and others, problem-solving ability, and self-regulation. The tenets of Positive Discipline consistently foster mutual respect so that any child—from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager—can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline without losing his or her dignity. In this new parenting guidebook, you’ll find day-to-day exercises for parents to improve their parenting skills, along with success stories from parents worldwide who have benefited from the Positive Discipline philosophy. With training tools and personal examples from the authors, you will learn: · The “hidden belief” behind a child’s misbehavior, and how to respond accordingly · The best way to focus on solutions instead of dwelling on the negative · How to encourage your child without pampering or praising · How to teach your child to make mistakes and follow through on agreements · How to foster creative thinking

A Positive, Proven Approach to Single Parenting! As a single parent in our complex world, you face the challenge of doing alone a job that was meant for two people. In addition, self-doubt and guilt may dampen the joy you experience raising your child. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen''s classic POSITIVE DISCIPLINE series for its consistant, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely revised and updated edition of Positive Discipline for Single Parents you''ll learn how to succeed as a single parent in the most important job of your life: raising a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. Inside this reassuring book, you''ll discover how to: ·Identify potential problems and develop skills to prevent them ·Budget time each week for family activities ·Create a respectful coparenting relationship with your former spouse ·Use nonpunitive methods to help your children make wise decisions about their behavior ·And much, much more! "Provides very important information for single parents, especially in today''s violent society. Used as a resource, it can help parents deal with discipline issues in a positive way and in turn help their children become responsible citizens."—Judye Foy, international vice president, Community Relations, Parents Without Partners "Another great resource for both single parents and therapists . . . practical and enjoyable to read. A must for your parenting library."—Stephen Sprinkel, marriage and family therapist

Positive Discipline in the School and Classroom Manual provides materials to empower schools to develop and implement a comprehensive school process that teaches mutual respect, fosters academic excellence and teaches students (in a structured, experiential manner) the basic skills they need to develop a strong sense of belonging and significance.Positive Discipline in the School and Classroom Manual is organized to serve three primary purposes:1. To provide the resources to teach the social-emotional skills necessary as the foundation for classmeetings and the tools to lead your classroom into the process of Positive Discipline class meetings.2. To provide the materials used in the Positive Discipline in the Classroom professional development training workshops.3. To provide resources and ideas to inspire co-workers in your own school.

Positive Parenting for Those Important Teen Years Adolescence is often a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for you, their parents as well. During the teen years, kids aggressively begin to explore a new sense of freedom, which often leads to feelings of resentment and powerlessness for parents who increasingly are excluded from their children''s lives. This revised edition of Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows you how to break the destructive cycle of guilt and blame and work toward greater understanding and communication with your adolescents. Inside, you''ll: ·Find out how to encourage your teen and yourself ·Grow to understand how your teen still needs you, but in different ways ·Learn how to get to know who your teen really is ·Discover how to develop sound judgment without being judgmental ·Learn how to use follow-through—the only surefire way to get chores done Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commmonsense approach to child rearing. Inside, you''ll discover proven, effective methods for working with your teens. Over 1 million Positive Discipline books sold! "I highly recommend this book to parents, teachers, and all others who work with young people. It is one of the best books I have seen on helping adults and adolescents turn their conflict into friendship. Remarkably, it shows how to accomplish this while helping young people develop courage, confidence, responsibility, cooperation, self-respect, and trust. I urge you to read it." —H. Stephen Glenn, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World.

Discover the Power of Positive Time-Out Time-out is one of the most popular disciplinary techniques used in homes and schools today. But instead of being the positive, motivating, experience it should be for children, it is often punitive, counterproductive, and damaging to their gentle psyches. In this book, bestselling parenting author Jane Nelsen shows you how to make time-out a positive learning experience for children. Inside, you''ll discover how positive time-out can teach children the art of self-discipline and instill such invaluable qualities as self-confidence and problem-solving skills. You''ll also learn how to: ·Make time-out an encouraging experience ·Develop an attitude and action plan to avoid power struggles with children ·Empower children by involving them in the behavior changing process ·Understand the mistaken goals of negative behavior "Gives parents and teachers the encouragement and tools they need to help children handle their own behavior."—Sheryl Hausinger, M.D., Texas Children''s Pediatric Associates and mother of three "Offers more than 50 ways that parents can set limits while still encouraging their kids. It should be in every doctor''s waiting room."—Jody McVittie, M.D., family physician

Empowering Methods for Effective Childcare As a professional childcare provider, you want to create an environment that is inviting and nurturing for children as well as encouraging for your adult staff. You want to find ways to form a partnership with parents in their children''s development. Simply put, you want to provide an all-around quality childcare experience at every level. This book is also great for parents who want to take an active role in assuring the best childcare for their children. Positive Discipline for Childcare Providers offers a thorough, practical program that is easily adaptable to any childcare or preschool situation and setting. Inside are workable solutions to many of today''s toughest childcare issues and everything you need to develop an enriching experience for children, parents, and workers alike. You''ll learn how to: ·Create a setting where children can laugh, learn, and grow ·Support healthy physical, emotional, and cognitive development in all children, including those with special needs ·Encourage parents to establish a partnership with you and provide the same kind, firm limits and respectful environment at home ·Uncover support and learning opportunities for yourself and fellow childcare providers ·And much more! "In a magical way, Positive Discipline for Childcare Providers demonstrates techniques that decrease misbehavior by increasing the child''s sense of capability, courage, and community feeling." —Rob Guttenberg, a state-certified childcare trainer, director of parenting education at YMCA Youth Services Maryland, and author of The Parent As Cheerleader "Wow! This book is an incredible resource full of effective and practical ideas—from creating an environment where everyone feels welcome to a model of discipline that respects and empowers adults and children." —Mary Jamin Maguire, M.A., L.P., LICSW, trainer, Minnesota School-Age Childcare Training Network

Take back the classroom and make a positive difference in your students'' lives. Many teachers today are facing problems and discipline issues they never dreamed of when they decided to become teachers. Combine violence, behavioral disorders, and downright defiant attitudes from students with the age-old problems of bullying, poor attendance, and more, and the mix is positively lethal. However, there are effective, positive strategies for restoring order and turning the teacher-student relationship into one of mutual respect. Applicable to all grade levels, this comprehensive A to Z guide addresses modern-day problems and practical solutions for establishing an effective learning environment. Inside, you''ll discover: • The 17 fundamental tools of positive discipline • Real-life stories of proven positive discipline strategies • Suggestions for establishing and maintaining respectful, nurturing relationships with students • And much more! "Overcome obstacles and get back to why you became a teacher in the first place: to empower students with confidence, self-respect, and resourcefulness." —Bill Scott, principal, Birney Elementary School, Murietta, Georgia "An inspiring, information-packed book. All teachers—from those just beginning to those with many years of experience—will find the tools of positive discipline easy to use." —Phillip Harris, Ed.D., director, Center for Professional Development and Services, Phi Delta Kappa International

Discusses the difference between abuses and effective uses of "time out" as a disciplinary method for children.

A guide for puppy owners adapts effective child-rearing methods for young canines, in a guide that covers such topics as identifying a breed that fits a family, assessing a puppy''s personality, and overcoming problem behaviors. Original. 15,000 first printing.

The philosophy of positive discipline is that of raising children in a positive environment enabling them to grow into secure, capable people. Tailored to the needs of parents, teachers, and anyone who works with children, Prima''s "Positive Discipline" library is an invaluable resource.Parents recovering from addictions or other destructive behaviors need help mending the broken bonds with their children. Three experts provide it here.

A revised and updated edition of the Positive Discipline classic, helping parents connect with their children to support their social, emotional, and cognitive development and set them up for a lifetime of success. Over the years millions of parents have used the effective strategies of Positive Discipline to raise happy, responsible, and confident children. Research has shown that the first three years in a child''s life are a critical period in their development, and that relationship and behavior patterns instilled during that time can have profound implications for the rest of a child''s life. The updated advice in Positive Discipline: The First Three Years helps parents set effective boundaries, forge strong foundations for healthy communication, and lay the groundwork for positive relationships with their young children, with new readable and actionable content like: Recognizing and managing anxiety in children How to deal with sleep issues, tantrums, and defiance The importance of kind and firm parenting to support secure attachment Updated research on screentime And how parents can regulate their own behavior to avoid yelling, shaming, and other counterproductive responses It also includes a section on how Positive Discipline techniques can be used to support social emotional skills and language development in children. With this revision, a new generation of parents will be able to discover evidence-based strategies that foster mutual respect.

The number one stressor for teachers, who want to make a difference in the lives of students, is the time they have to spend on dealing with "misbehavior." Based on the best selling Positive Discipline series (rooted in the work of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs), this deck of cards includes 52 tools that teach skills for dealing with "misbehavior" in ways that teach social emotional learning at the same time. Instead of using rewards and punishments (proven by research to be ineffective long-term), these tools help teachers understand the "belief behind the behavior" (the driving force behind the behavior) and then how to use encouraging methods such as involving students in focusing on solutions. Each tool includes a cartoon to help you see the humor in difficult situations, which then helps you access the part of your brain that is open to solutions. The "text" side of the card provides quick and easy steps to implement 52 tools that meet the Five Criteria for Positive Discipline.

For both teenagers and parents, the teen years can be like living in a war zone. In this book, the author of Positive Discipline, Jane Nelson, and coauthor Lynn Lott offer techniques and behavior modification models that will help parents see through their teens'' eyes, nurture their teens'' need for independence, communicate with their teens for better understanding and more.

The author of Positive Discipline offers a warm, beautifully written book which will help people find understanding and compassion in their relationships with children, spouses, employers, friends--and most important, themselves. "A stupendous acheivement"--Wayne W. Dyer, author of Your Erroneous Zones.

Most readers know that "happiness is within," but they don''t always know how to access that happiness whenever they like, and in all circumstances. In Serenity, Jane Nelsen teaches readers four principles that will help them to stop being a slave to their thought system in order to access wisdom from the heart and from the soul. The four basic and easily applied principles from Serenity: 1. Free yourself from the filters of your thought system. 2. Understand how feelings can act as a personal compass. 3. Improve relationships by understanding and respecting differences. 4. Learn how to overcome depression, anger, or any negative feeling. The chronic stress of modern life often interferes with enjoying the happiness that comes with peace of mind. Joy is needlessly missing from too many lives and from too many relationships. Serenity provides many tools to help readers discover innate feelings of joy, compassion, gratitude, wisdom, and love so they can live more fully every day.

Whether you have been married for 30 years or are looking for a committed relationship, this book provides the tools to establish, strengthen, and rediscover connection, passion, and joy in any relationship.