New Releases by Deborah Tannen

A #1 New York Times bestselling author traces her father’s life from turn-of-the-century Warsaw to New York City in an intimate memoir about family, memory, and the stories we tell. “An accomplished, clear-eyed, and affecting memoir about a man who is at once ordinary and extraordinary.”—Forward Long before she was the acclaimed author of a groundbreaking book about women and men, praised by Oliver Sacks for having “a novelist’s ear for the way people speak,” Deborah Tannen was a girl who adored her father. Though he was often absent during her childhood, she was profoundly influenced by his gift for writing and storytelling. As she grew up and he grew older, she spent countless hours recording conversations with her father for the account of his life she had promised him she’d write. But when he hands Tannen journals he kept in his youth, and she discovers letters he saved from a woman he might have married instead of her mother, she is forced to rethink her assumptions about her father’s life and her parents’ marriage. In this memoir, Tannen embarks on the poignant, yet perilous, quest to piece together the puzzle of her father’s life. Beginning with his astonishingly vivid memories of the Hasidic community in Warsaw, where he was born in 1908, she traces his journey: from arriving in New York City in 1920 to quitting high school at fourteen to support his mother and sister, through a vast array of jobs, including prison guard and gun-toting alcohol tax inspector, to eventually establishing the largest workers’ compensation law practice in New York and running for Congress. As Tannen comes to better understand her father’s—and her own—relationship to Judaism, she uncovers aspects of his life she would never have imagined. Finding My Father is a memoir of Eli Tannen’s life and the ways in which it reflects the near century that he lived. Even more than that, it’s an unflinching account of a daughter’s struggle to see her father clearly, to know him more deeply, and to find a more truthful story about her family and herself.

Get what you really want from your career. As a woman, you may face unfair challenges in the workplace--from being passed over for promotion to being ignored in conversation. Unconscious bias and negative assumptions are working against you. HBR''s Women at Work Collection will help you break through these barriers and help you get what you want from your career. This two-book set includes HBR''s 10 Must Reads on Women and Leadership and the HBR Guide for Women at Work. The Must Read volume brings together the 10 best articles from Harvard Business Review, curated by our editors, on gender dynamics in the workplace, while the HBR Guide provides practical and useful tips for how to identify and overcome the factors holding women back. This unique compilation offers insights from world-class experts including Herminia Ibarra, Joan Williams, Sheryl Sandberg, and others. It will inspire you to: learn the root causes of the barriers that exist for women; better understand the path women must take to leadership; check your own gender biases and distinguish between confidence and competence; manage a more effective gender-diversity program; advocate for yourself; and demonstrate your leadership skills. HBR''s Women at Work Collection is an invaluable resource for any woman seeking to reach her true leadership potential and for anyone--man or woman--looking to create a more gender-balanced workforce.

Cum putem înțelege mai bine familiile? Cum funcționează relațiile? În această carte, Deborah Tannen explorează modul în care, prin dialog, ne creăm și ne modelăm relațiile, ne simțim aliați sau, dimpotrivă, suntem răniți și explică mecanismele care se află în spatele discuțiilor cotidiene. În centrul atenției sunt aduse diferite tipuri de conversații care au loc în familie — în special între membrii adulți. Bazandu-se pe analiza conversației, Tannen ne arată cât de important este să diferențiem mesajul cuvintelor rostite de metamesaje, acele semnificații emoționale puternice ce vin din istoria relațiilor noastre și din modul în care lucrurile sunt spuse. Ajutându-ne să înțelegem și să redefinim discuțiile din familie, Deborah Tannen ne oferă și instrumentele necesare pentru a ne îmbunătăți relațiile cu ceilalți membri ai familiei.

What will it take to create a more gender-balanced workplace? If you read nothing else on leadership and gender at work, read these 10 articles by experts in the field. We''ve combed through hundreds of articles in the Harvard Business Review archive and selected the most important ones to help you understand where gender equality is today--and how far we still have to go. This book will inspire you to: Better understand the path women must take to leadership Learn the root causes of the barriers that exist for women in the workplace Check your own gender biases and distinguish between confidence and competence in your colleagues Manage a more effective gender-diversity program Recognize the issues women face when speaking up about bias or harassment Help women reenter the workforce after taking time off--and create opportunities for them to reach their ambitions. This collection of articles includes "Women and the Labyrinth of Leadership," by Alice H. Eagly and Linda L. Carli; "Do Women Lack Ambition?" by Anna Fels; "Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers," by Herminia Ibarra, Robin Ely, and Deborah Kolb; "Women and the Vision Thing," by Herminia Ibarra and Otilia Obodaru; "The Power of Talk: Who Gets Heard and Why," by Deborah Tannen; "The Memo Every Woman Keeps in Her Desk," by Kathleen Reardon; "Why Diversity Programs Fail," by Frank Dobbin and Alexandra Kalev; "Now What?" by Joan C. Williams and Suzanne Lebsock; "The Battle for Female Talent in Emerging Markets," by Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Ripa Rashid; "Off-Ramps and On-Ramps: Keeping Talented Women on the Road to Success," by Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Carolyn Buck Luce; and "Sheryl Sandberg: The HBR Interview," by Sheryl Sandberg and Adi Ignatius.

This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Just Don’t Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships. A WASHINGTON POST NOTABLE BOOK • “Celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity.”—The Atlantic Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people. In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains • the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen • how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete • how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships • how social media is reshaping communication and relationships Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better. “At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”—The Washington Post

Lead with charisma and confidence. Many leaders consider "executive presence" a make-or-break factor in high-powered promotions. But what is this elusive quality, and how do you develop it? This book explains how to build the charisma, confidence, and decisiveness that top leaders project. Whether you''re delivering a critical presentation or managing a hectic meeting, you''ll be inspired to approach the situation with new strength. This volume includes the work of: Deborah Tannen Amy J. C. Cuddy Amy Jen Su This collection of articles includes "Deconstructing Executive Presence," by John Beeson; "How New Managers Can Send the Right Leadership Signals," by Amy Jen Su; "To Sound Like a Leader, Think About What You Say, and How and When You Say It," by Rebecca Shambaugh; "Connect, Then Lead," by Amy J. C. Cuddy, Matthew Kohut, and John Neffinger; "The Power of Talk: Who Gets Heard and Why," by Deborah Tannen; and "Too Much Charisma Can Make Leaders Look Less Effective," by Jasmine Vergauwe, Bart Wille, Joeri Hofmans, Robert B. Kaiser, and Filip De Fruyt. HOW TO BE HUMAN AT WORK. The HBR Emotional Intelligence Series features smart, essential reading on the human side of professional life from the pages of Harvard Business Review. Each book in the series offers proven research showing how our emotions impact our work lives, practical advice for managing difficult people and situations, and inspiring essays on what it means to tend to our emotional well-being at work. Uplifting and practical, these books describe the social skills that are critical for ambitious professionals to master.

عن التواصل كيف يستطيع أفضل القادة التواصل بوضوح وإقناع...؟! إذا لم تكن قد قرأت أي شيء عن كيفية التواصل المؤثر الواضح، عليك قراءة هذه المقالات العشر، لقد بحثنا عبر مئات المقالات في أرشيف مجلة هارفارد للأعمال واختبرنا أكثر المقالات المهمة لمساعدتك على التعبير عن أفكارك بوضوح وقوة مهما كان الوضع. في هذه المقالات، ستجد خبراء مثل: ديبوراu0003تانين وجاي كونغر ونك مورغان ليقدموا لكu0003النصيحة التي تحتاج إليها من أجل: • طرح أفكارك النيِّرة بنجاح. • التواصل مع جمهورك. • تثبيت المصداقية. • تحفيز الآخرين على تنفيذ رؤيتك. • التكيف مع أساليب اتخاذ القرار عند أصحابu0003المصلحة وتأطير الأهداف حول المصالح المشتركة. • بناء الإجماع وكسب التأييد. العبيكان 2017

The second edition of the highly successful Handbook ofDiscourse Analysis has been expanded and thoroughly updated toreflect the very latest research to have developed since theoriginal publication, including new theoretical paradigms and discourse-analytic models, in an authoritative two-volumeset. Twenty new chapters highlight emerging trends and the latestareas of research Contributions reflect the range, depth, and richness of currentresearch in the field Chapters are written by internationally-recognized leaders intheir respective fields, constituting a Who’s Who ofDiscourse Analysis A vital resource for scholars and students in discourse studiesas well as for researchers in related fields who seek authoritativeoverviews of discourse analytic issues, theories, and methods

The bestselling linguistics professor examines how we communicate with each other and how you can maintain an effective conversation. At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it’s often not what you say but how you say it that counts. Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller You Just Don’t Understand. In That’s Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose—are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored—but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood. At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen’s classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn’t said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship. “Tannen combines a novelist’s ear for the way people speak with a rare power of original analysis. . . . Fascinating.” —Oliver Sacks “We are, all of us, foreigners to each other: editor and writer, man and woman, Californian and New Yorker, friend and friend. Dr. Tannen shows us how different we are, and how to speak the same language.” —Jack Rosenthal, Pulitzer Prize winner and editor, The New York Times “Tannen has a marvelous ear for the way real people express themselves and a scientist’s command of the inner structures of speech and human relationships.” —Los Angeles Times

The best leaders know how to communicate clearly and persuasively. How do you stack up?If you read nothing else on communicating effectively, read these 10 articles. We''ve combed through hundreds of articles in the Harvard Business Review archive and selected the most important ones to help you express your ideas with clarity and impact--no matter what the situation. Leading experts such as Deborah Tannen, Jay Conger, and Nick Morgan provide the insights and advice you need to: Pitch your brilliant idea--successfully Connect with your audience Establish credibility Inspire others to carry out your vision Adapt to stakeholders'' decision-making style Frame goals around common interests Build consensus and win support

Our everyday lives are increasingly being lived through electronic media, which are changing our interactions and our communications in ways that we are only beginning to understand. In Discourse 2.0: Language and New Media, editors Deborah Tannen and Anna Marie Trester team up with top scholars in the field to shed light on the ways language is being used in, and shaped by, these new media contexts. Topics explored include: how Web 2.0 can be conceptualized and theorized; the role of English on the worldwide web; how use of social media such as Facebook and texting shape communication with family and friends; electronic discourse and assessment in educational and other settings; multimodality and the "participatory spectacle" in Web 2.0; asynchronicity and turn-taking; ways that we engage with technology including reading on-screen and on paper; and how all of these processes interplay with meaning-making. Students, professionals, and individuals will discover that Discourse 2.0 offers a rich source of insight into these new forms of discourse that are pervasive in our lives.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTELLER Conversations between sisters reveal a deep and constant tug between two dynamics—an impulse toward closeness and an impulse toward competition. It takes just a word from your sister to start you laughing, or to summon up a past you both share. But it also takes just a word to send you into an emotional tailspin. For many women, a sister is both a devoted friend and a fierce rival. Wise and witty, You Were Always Mom’s Favorite! will leave you with a profound new understanding of the unique and precious sister bond, as well as provide practical advice that will open up communication, dispel tensions, and make a vital connection even stronger, deeper, and more resilient.

Mutter und Tochter - eine hoch emotionale Beziehung mit viel Konfliktpotential. Mal beste Freundin, mal schlimmste Feindin - die Beziehung zwischen Müttern und Töchtern neigt in jeder Hinsicht zum Extrem: Sie ist besonders intensiv, besonders emotional und besonders konfliktanfällig. Mütter und Töchter reden zwar viel miteinander, aber oft aneinander vorbei. Missverständnisse sind vorprogrammiert, unterschwellige Botschaften fast unvermeidbar. Was die Mutter als Rat äußert, kommt bei ihrer Tochter als Bevormundung an, und was für die Tochter Freiheit bedeutet, ist für die Mutter Rebellion. Einfühlsam, amüsant und aufschlussreich durchleuchtet Deborah Tannen typische Gesprächssituationen zwischen Mutter und erwachsener Tochter und hilft beiden gleichermaßen, Konflikte zu entschärfen und sich besser zu verstehen. Beispiele und Anekdoten aus dem Alltag zeigen den Weg zu einem friedlicheren Miteinander und einem Ausgleich zwischen dem Verlangen nach Nähe einerseits und Unabhängigkeit andererseits.

من الكتب العميقة التي ناقشت خلافات الأمهات والبنات، حول اللباس والشعر والوزن والبيت والأطفال والكلام، قصص وطرائف وملاحظات وتحليلات تعالج أنماط حياة الأسرة فيها جرأة وتحليل وصراحة تحتاجها الأم والبنت في أي موقف وعمر. "إن للمؤلفة أذنا موهوبة في سماع المعنى من وراء الكلمات، إنها هنا تساعدنا لنسمع حقيقة أقوالنا" جريدة: بالتيمور سن تتكلم الأمهات والبنات اللغة نفسها، لكنهن غالبا ما يسئن فهم بعضهن وهن يصارعن لإيجاد التوازن المناسب بين القرب والاستقلالية. لماذا تشتكي البنات دائما من نقد أمهاتهن، بينما تتألم الأمهات من استبعاد البنات لهن من حياتهن؟ لماذا تنتقد الأمهات والبنات بعضهن في المسائل الثلاث الكبار: الشعر والملابس والوزن، بينما تهفو كل منهن للاستحسان والتفهم من الأخرى ولا تجده؟ ولماذا تدقق الأم والبنت لترى نفسها في الأخرى؟ تجيب المؤلفة عن هذه الأسئلة وعن أسئلة كثيرة غيرها، من خلال تفسيرها لما يحدث للبنت أو الأم عند سماع كلمة بريئة منها قد لا تكون نقدا صريحا فتنفجر من نقدها في حين أنها لا تتأثر بها لو صدرت عن غيرها. تتفحص الكاتبة من خلال البصيرة النفاذة، والحوار المثالي والذكريات العميقة والمثيرة لأمها عن كل وجه من وجوه هذه الديناميكية المعقدة بين الأم وابنتها. يتناول الكتاب الجانب المظلم للعلاقة والذي يمكنه أن يحزن المرأة طوال حياتها إلى التكنولوجيا الجديدة كالإيميل والرسائل السريعة تلك التي غيرت وما زالت تغير طرق التواصل بين الأمهات والبنات. والأهم أنها تقدم للأمهات والبنات مفتاح تحسين العلاقة فيما بينهما عن طريق مساعدتهما في فهم بعضهن لبعض. " إن أثر وتقييم حكايات وتحليلات "تانن" يؤكد للقارئات بأنهن لسن وحيدات." جريدة: وال ستريت جورنال " ربما يستطيع هذا الكتاب فتح أعيننا جميعا." جريدة: شيكاغو سن تايمز اليوم العالمي للمرأة-العبيكان للنشر

New York Times bestselling author takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women''s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. Even though they speak the same language, they often misunderstand each other. With groundbreaking insights and deeply moving memories, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence.

Through everyday talk, individuals forge the ties that can make a family. Family members use language to manage a household, create and maintain relationships, and negotiate and reinforce values and beliefs. The studies gathered in Family Talk are based on a unique research project in which four dual-income American families recorded everything they said for a week. Family Talk extends our understanding of family discourse and of how family members construct, negotiate, and enact their identities as individuals and as families. The volume also contributes to the discourse analysis of naturally-occurring interaction and makes significant contributions to theories of framing in interaction. Family Talk addresses issues central to the academic discipline of discourse analysis as well as to families themselves, including decision-making and conflict-talk, the development of gendered family roles, sociability with and socialization of children, the development of social and political beliefs, and the interconnectedness of professional and family life. It provides illuminating insights into the subtleties of family conversation, and will be of interest to scholars and students in sociolinguistics, discourse studies, communications, anthropological linguistics, cultural studies, psychology, and other fields concerned with the language of everyday interaction or family interaction.

A study of the mother-daughter relationship examines every aspect of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of the other''s point of view.

This revised edition of Tannen''s first discourse analysis book--first published in 1984--presents an approach to analyzing conversation that later became the hallmark and foundation of her extensive body of work in discourse analysis.

This revised edition of Deborah Tannen''s first discourse analysis book, Conversational Style--first published in 1984--presents an approach to analyzing conversation that later became the hallmark and foundation of her extensive body of work in discourse analysis, including the monograph Talking Voices, as well as her well-known popular books You Just Don''t Understand, That''s Not What I Meant!, and Talking from 9 to 5, among others. Carefully examining the discourse of six speakers over the course of a two-and-a-half hour Thanksgiving dinner conversation, Tannen analyzes the features that make up the speakers'' conversational styles, and in particular how aspects of what she calls a ''high-involvement style'' have a positive effect when used with others who share the style, but a negative effect with those whose styles differ. This revised edition includes a new preface and an afterword in which Tannen discusses the book''s place in the evolution of her work. Conversational Style is written in an accessible and non-technical style that should appeal to scholars and students of discourse analysis (in fields like linguistics, anthropology, communication, sociology, and psychology) as well as general readers fascinated by Tannen''s popular work. This book is an ideal text for use in introductory classes in linguistics and discourse analysis.

In this course, Georgetown University linguistics professor Deborah Tannen addresses the various aspects and implications of conversational style.

Ten contributions from American academics discuss recent research on linguistic analysis. The volume opens with Frederick Erickson''s (UCLA) theories on the musical nature of speech. Next, Wallace Chafe (UC- Santa Barbara) describes a phonetics of laughter and examines its uses in conversation. Other contributors analyze discourses ranging from ordinary medical interactions and family conversations to testimony before the South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission. Annotation (c)2003 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com).

Por que, al hablar en el seno de la familia, se suele caer en los mismos circulos una y otra vez, y casi siempre nos metemos en embrollos? En este libro revelador, Deborah Tannen nos cuenta por que hablar con los miembros de nuestra familia suele ser problematico, incluso cuando ya somos adultos. Buscamos signos de aceptacion y pertenencia y solo encontramos reprobacion y rechazo. Por que las semillas del amor familiar suelen dar cosechas de rencor y maledicencia? En B!LO DIGO POR TU BIEN!, Tannen muestra cuan importante es, en el habla, aprender a separar el significado de las palabras, o mensajes, de los significados del corazon, o metamensajes, esos significados ocultos y poderosos que son fruto a la vez de la historia de nuestras relaciones y del modo en que decimos las cosas. Basandose en conversaciones reales de la vida cotidiana, Tannen analiza todo lo que esta en juego en el habla familiar, incluyendo el modo en que las conversaciones equilibran comunicacion y control, y responden a nuestros deseos de proximidad sin renunciar a nuestra libertad. Este libro le revelara por que las hijas se sienten censuradas por sus madres y por que las madres creen que no pueden abrir la boca ante sus hijas; por que crecer como un hombre o como una mujer, o ser el hermano mayor o el menor, conlleva una experiencia distinta de la familia, y como esta percepcion persiste a lo largo de toda nuestra vida... Ayudandonos a comprender y a redefinir la comunicacion familiar, Tannen nos proporciona los instrumentos imprescindibles para mejorar la relacion con los miembros de nuestra familia sea cual sea la edad que tengamos.