New Releases by Deborah Tannen

In this memoir, Deborah fulfills her promise to her father, embarking on the poignant, yet perilous, quest to piece together the puzzle of her father''s life. Beginning with his astonishingly vivid memories of the Hasidic community in Warsaw that he was born into in 1908, she traces his journey: arriving in New York City in 1920, he quit high school at fourteen to become sole support of his mother and sister, yet attended law school at night and eventually established the largest workmen''s compensation practice in New York. In the intervening years, he became active in the Communist Party, then New York''s Liberal Party, running for Congress on its ticket. As Deborah comes to better understand her father''s--and her own--relationship to Judaism, she also uncovers aspects of her father''s life she would never have imagined. When she discovers letters from another woman he might have married, she is forced to rethink her assumptions about her parents'' marriage. .

Get what you really want from your career. As a woman, you may face unfair challenges in the workplace--from being passed over for promotion to being ignored in conversation. Unconscious bias and negative assumptions are working against you. HBR''s Women at Work Collection will help you break through these barriers and help you get what you want from your career. This two-book set includes HBR''s 10 Must Reads on Women and Leadership and the HBR Guide for Women at Work. The Must Read volume brings together the 10 best articles from Harvard Business Review, curated by our editors, on gender dynamics in the workplace, while the HBR Guide provides practical and useful tips for how to identify and overcome the factors holding women back. This unique compilation offers insights from world-class experts including Herminia Ibarra, Joan Williams, Sheryl Sandberg, and others. It will inspire you to: learn the root causes of the barriers that exist for women; better understand the path women must take to leadership; check your own gender biases and distinguish between confidence and competence; manage a more effective gender-diversity program; advocate for yourself; and demonstrate your leadership skills. HBR''s Women at Work Collection is an invaluable resource for any woman seeking to reach her true leadership potential and for anyone--man or woman--looking to create a more gender-balanced workforce.

Cum putem înțelege mai bine familiile? Cum funcționează relațiile? În această carte, Deborah Tannen explorează modul în care, prin dialog, ne creăm și ne modelăm relațiile, ne simțim aliați sau, dimpotrivă, suntem răniți și explică mecanismele care se află în spatele discuțiilor cotidiene. În centrul atenției sunt aduse diferite tipuri de conversații care au loc în familie — în special între membrii adulți. Bazandu-se pe analiza conversației, Tannen ne arată cât de important este să diferențiem mesajul cuvintelor rostite de metamesaje, acele semnificații emoționale puternice ce vin din istoria relațiilor noastre și din modul în care lucrurile sunt spuse. Ajutându-ne să înțelegem și să redefinim discuțiile din familie, Deborah Tannen ne oferă și instrumentele necesare pentru a ne îmbunătăți relațiile cu ceilalți membri ai familiei.

What will it take to create a more gender-balanced workplace? If you read nothing else on leadership and gender at work, read these 10 articles by experts in the field. We''ve combed through hundreds of articles in the Harvard Business Review archive and selected the most important ones to help you understand where gender equality is today--and how far we still have to go. This book will inspire you to: Better understand the path women must take to leadership Learn the root causes of the barriers that exist for women in the workplace Check your own gender biases and distinguish between confidence and competence in your colleagues Manage a more effective gender-diversity program Recognize the issues women face when speaking up about bias or harassment Help women reenter the workforce after taking time off--and create opportunities for them to reach their ambitions. This collection of articles includes "Women and the Labyrinth of Leadership," by Alice H. Eagly and Linda L. Carli; "Do Women Lack Ambition?" by Anna Fels; "Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers," by Herminia Ibarra, Robin Ely, and Deborah Kolb; "Women and the Vision Thing," by Herminia Ibarra and Otilia Obodaru; "The Power of Talk: Who Gets Heard and Why," by Deborah Tannen; "The Memo Every Woman Keeps in Her Desk," by Kathleen Reardon; "Why Diversity Programs Fail," by Frank Dobbin and Alexandra Kalev; "Now What?" by Joan C. Williams and Suzanne Lebsock; "The Battle for Female Talent in Emerging Markets," by Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Ripa Rashid; "Off-Ramps and On-Ramps: Keeping Talented Women on the Road to Success," by Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Carolyn Buck Luce; and "Sheryl Sandberg: The HBR Interview," by Sheryl Sandberg and Adi Ignatius.

Lead with charisma and confidence. Many leaders consider "executive presence" a make-or-break factor in high-powered promotions. But what is this elusive quality, and how do you develop it? This book explains how to build the charisma, confidence, and decisiveness that top leaders project. Whether you''re delivering a critical presentation or managing a hectic meeting, you''ll be inspired to approach the situation with new strength. This volume includes the work of: Deborah Tannen Amy J. C. Cuddy Amy Jen Su This collection of articles includes "Deconstructing Executive Presence," by John Beeson; "How New Managers Can Send the Right Leadership Signals," by Amy Jen Su; "To Sound Like a Leader, Think About What You Say, and How and When You Say It," by Rebecca Shambaugh; "Connect, Then Lead," by Amy J. C. Cuddy, Matthew Kohut, and John Neffinger; "The Power of Talk: Who Gets Heard and Why," by Deborah Tannen; and "Too Much Charisma Can Make Leaders Look Less Effective," by Jasmine Vergauwe, Bart Wille, Joeri Hofmans, Robert B. Kaiser, and Filip De Fruyt. HOW TO BE HUMAN AT WORK. The HBR Emotional Intelligence Series features smart, essential reading on the human side of professional life from the pages of Harvard Business Review. Each book in the series offers proven research showing how our emotions impact our work lives, practical advice for managing difficult people and situations, and inspiring essays on what it means to tend to our emotional well-being at work. Uplifting and practical, these books describe the social skills that are critical for ambitious professionals to master.

A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University decodes the conversational styles of female friends and explains how language contributes to this unique, cherished, and crucial connection.

عن التواصل كيف يستطيع أفضل القادة التواصل بوضوح وإقناع...؟! إذا لم تكن قد قرأت أي شيء عن كيفية التواصل المؤثر الواضح، عليك قراءة هذه المقالات العشر، لقد بحثنا عبر مئات المقالات في أرشيف مجلة هارفارد للأعمال واختبرنا أكثر المقالات المهمة لمساعدتك على التعبير عن أفكارك بوضوح وقوة مهما كان الوضع. في هذه المقالات، ستجد خبراء مثل: ديبوراu0003تانين وجاي كونغر ونك مورغان ليقدموا لكu0003النصيحة التي تحتاج إليها من أجل: • طرح أفكارك النيِّرة بنجاح. • التواصل مع جمهورك. • تثبيت المصداقية. • تحفيز الآخرين على تنفيذ رؤيتك. • التكيف مع أساليب اتخاذ القرار عند أصحابu0003المصلحة وتأطير الأهداف حول المصالح المشتركة. • بناء الإجماع وكسب التأييد. العبيكان 2017

The best leaders know how to communicate clearly and persuasively. How do you stack up?If you read nothing else on communicating effectively, read these 10 articles. We''ve combed through hundreds of articles in the Harvard Business Review archive and selected the most important ones to help you express your ideas with clarity and impact--no matter what the situation. Leading experts such as Deborah Tannen, Jay Conger, and Nick Morgan provide the insights and advice you need to: Pitch your brilliant idea--successfully Connect with your audience Establish credibility Inspire others to carry out your vision Adapt to stakeholders'' decision-making style Frame goals around common interests Build consensus and win support

Our everyday lives are increasingly being lived through electronic media, which are changing our interactions and our communications in ways that we are only beginning to understand. In Discourse 2.0: Language and New Media, editors Deborah Tannen and Anna Marie Trester team up with top scholars in the field to shed light on the ways language is being used in, and shaped by, these new media contexts. Topics explored include: how Web 2.0 can be conceptualized and theorized; the role of English on the worldwide web; how use of social media such as Facebook and texting shape communication with family and friends; electronic discourse and assessment in educational and other settings; multimodality and the "participatory spectacle" in Web 2.0; asynchronicity and turn-taking; ways that we engage with technology including reading on-screen and on paper; and how all of these processes interplay with meaning-making. Students, professionals, and individuals will discover that Discourse 2.0 offers a rich source of insight into these new forms of discourse that are pervasive in our lives.

At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it''s often not what you say but how you say it that counts. Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller You Just Don''t Understand. In That''s Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose—are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored—but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood. At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen''s classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn''t said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship.

Conversations between sisters reveal a deep and constant tug between two dynamics—an impulse toward closeness and an impulse toward competition. It takes just a word from your sister to start you laughing, or to summon up a past you both share. But it also takes just a word to send you into an emotional tailspin. For many women, a sister is both a devoted friend and a fierce rival. Wise and witty, You Were Always Mom’s Favorite! will leave you with a profound new understanding of the unique and precious sister bond, as well as provide practical advice that will open up communication, dispel tensions, and make a vital connection even stronger, deeper, and more resilient.

من الكتب العميقة التي ناقشت خلافات الأمهات والبنات، حول اللباس والشعر والوزن والبيت والأطفال والكلام، قصص وطرائف وملاحظات وتحليلات تعالج أنماط حياة الأسرة فيها جرأة وتحليل وصراحة تحتاجها الأم والبنت في أي موقف وعمر. "إن للمؤلفة أذنا موهوبة في سماع المعنى من وراء الكلمات، إنها هنا تساعدنا لنسمع حقيقة أقوالنا" جريدة: بالتيمور سن تتكلم الأمهات والبنات اللغة نفسها، لكنهن غالبا ما يسئن فهم بعضهن وهن يصارعن لإيجاد التوازن المناسب بين القرب والاستقلالية. لماذا تشتكي البنات دائما من نقد أمهاتهن، بينما تتألم الأمهات من استبعاد البنات لهن من حياتهن؟ لماذا تنتقد الأمهات والبنات بعضهن في المسائل الثلاث الكبار: الشعر والملابس والوزن، بينما تهفو كل منهن للاستحسان والتفهم من الأخرى ولا تجده؟ ولماذا تدقق الأم والبنت لترى نفسها في الأخرى؟ تجيب المؤلفة عن هذه الأسئلة وعن أسئلة كثيرة غيرها، من خلال تفسيرها لما يحدث للبنت أو الأم عند سماع كلمة بريئة منها قد لا تكون نقدا صريحا فتنفجر من نقدها في حين أنها لا تتأثر بها لو صدرت عن غيرها. تتفحص الكاتبة من خلال البصيرة النفاذة، والحوار المثالي والذكريات العميقة والمثيرة لأمها عن كل وجه من وجوه هذه الديناميكية المعقدة بين الأم وابنتها. يتناول الكتاب الجانب المظلم للعلاقة والذي يمكنه أن يحزن المرأة طوال حياتها إلى التكنولوجيا الجديدة كالإيميل والرسائل السريعة تلك التي غيرت وما زالت تغير طرق التواصل بين الأمهات والبنات. والأهم أنها تقدم للأمهات والبنات مفتاح تحسين العلاقة فيما بينهما عن طريق مساعدتهما في فهم بعضهن لبعض. " إن أثر وتقييم حكايات وتحليلات "تانن" يؤكد للقارئات بأنهن لسن وحيدات." جريدة: وال ستريت جورنال " ربما يستطيع هذا الكتاب فتح أعيننا جميعا." جريدة: شيكاغو سن تايمز اليوم العالمي للمرأة-العبيكان للنشر

New York Times bestselling author takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women''s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. Even though they speak the same language, they often misunderstand each other. With groundbreaking insights and deeply moving memories, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence.

Through everyday talk, individuals forge the ties that can make a family. Family members use language to manage a household, create and maintain relationships, and negotiate and reinforce values and beliefs. The studies gathered in Family Talk are based on a unique research project in which four dual-income American families recorded everything they said for a week. Family Talk extends our understanding of family discourse and of how family members construct, negotiate, and enact their identities as individuals and as families. The volume also contributes to the discourse analysis of naturally-occurring interaction and makes significant contributions to theories of framing in interaction. Family Talk addresses issues central to the academic discipline of discourse analysis as well as to families themselves, including decision-making and conflict-talk, the development of gendered family roles, sociability with and socialization of children, the development of social and political beliefs, and the interconnectedness of professional and family life. It provides illuminating insights into the subtleties of family conversation, and will be of interest to scholars and students in sociolinguistics, discourse studies, communications, anthropological linguistics, cultural studies, psychology, and other fields concerned with the language of everyday interaction or family interaction.

Deborah Tannen''s #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives. “Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn''t just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle

This revised edition of Tannen''s first discourse analysis book--first published in 1984--presents an approach to analyzing conversation that later became the hallmark and foundation of her extensive body of work in discourse analysis.

In this course, Georgetown University linguistics professor Deborah Tannen addresses the various aspects and implications of conversational style.

Ten contributions from American academics discuss recent research on linguistic analysis. The volume opens with Frederick Erickson''s (UCLA) theories on the musical nature of speech. Next, Wallace Chafe (UC- Santa Barbara) describes a phonetics of laughter and examines its uses in conversation. Other contributors analyze discourses ranging from ordinary medical interactions and family conversations to testimony before the South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission. Annotation (c)2003 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com).

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don''t Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we''re all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages —unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people''s lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can''t open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

Por que, al hablar en el seno de la familia, se suele caer en los mismos circulos una y otra vez, y casi siempre nos metemos en embrollos? En este libro revelador, Deborah Tannen nos cuenta por que hablar con los miembros de nuestra familia suele ser problematico, incluso cuando ya somos adultos. Buscamos signos de aceptacion y pertenencia y solo encontramos reprobacion y rechazo. Por que las semillas del amor familiar suelen dar cosechas de rencor y maledicencia? En B!LO DIGO POR TU BIEN!, Tannen muestra cuan importante es, en el habla, aprender a separar el significado de las palabras, o mensajes, de los significados del corazon, o metamensajes, esos significados ocultos y poderosos que son fruto a la vez de la historia de nuestras relaciones y del modo en que decimos las cosas. Basandose en conversaciones reales de la vida cotidiana, Tannen analiza todo lo que esta en juego en el habla familiar, incluyendo el modo en que las conversaciones equilibran comunicacion y control, y responden a nuestros deseos de proximidad sin renunciar a nuestra libertad. Este libro le revelara por que las hijas se sienten censuradas por sus madres y por que las madres creen que no pueden abrir la boca ante sus hijas; por que crecer como un hombre o como una mujer, o ser el hermano mayor o el menor, conlleva una experiencia distinta de la familia, y como esta percepcion persiste a lo largo de toda nuestra vida... Ayudandonos a comprender y a redefinir la comunicacion familiar, Tannen nos proporciona los instrumentos imprescindibles para mejorar la relacion con los miembros de nuestra familia sea cual sea la edad que tengamos.