Most Popular Books by Ross W. Greene

Provides a sensitive, practical approach to managing a child''s severe noncompliance. temper outbursts and verbal or physical aggression at home and school. May also be useful for parents of children with oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).

From a distinguished clinician, pioneer in working with behaviorally challenging kids, and author of the acclaimed The Explosive Child comes a groundbreaking approach for understanding and helping these kids and transforming school discipline. Frequent visits to the principal''s office. Detentions. Suspensions. Expulsions. These are the established tools of school discipline for kids who don''t abide by school rules, have a hard time getting along with other kids, don''t seem to respect authority, don''t seem interested in learning, and are disrupting the learning of their classmates. But there''s a big problem with these strategies: They are ineffective for most of the students to whom they are applied. It''s time for a change in course. Here, Dr. Ross W. Greene presents an enlightened, clear-cut, and practical alternative. Relying on research from the neurosciences, Dr. Greene offers a new conceptual framework for understanding the difficulties of kids with behavioral challenges and explains why traditional discipline isn''t effective at addressing these difficulties. Emphasizing the revolutionarily simple and positive notion that kids do well if they can, he persuasively argues that kids with behavioral challenges are not attention-seeking, manipulative, limit-testing, coercive, or unmotivated, but that they lack the skills to behave adaptively. And when adults recognize the true factors underlying difficult behavior and teach kids the skills in increments they can handle, the results are astounding: The kids overcome their obstacles; the frustration of teachers, parents, and classmates diminishes; and the well-being and learning of all students are enhanced. In Lost at School, Dr. Greene describes how his road-tested, evidence-based approach -- called Collaborative Problem Solving -- can help challenging kids at school. His lively, compelling narrative includes: • tools to identify the triggers and lagging skills underlying challenging behavior. • explicit guidance on how to radically improve interactions with challenging kids -- along with many examples showing how it''s done. • dialogues, Q & A''s, and the story, which runs through the book, of one child and his teachers, parents, and school. • practical guidance for successful planning and collaboration among teachers, parents, administrations, and kids. Backed by years of experience and research, and written with a powerful sense of hope and achievable change, Lost at School gives teachers and parents the realistic strategies and information to impact the classroom experience of every challenging kid.

Renowned child psychologist and New York Times bestselling author of Lost at School and The Explosive Child explains how to cultivate a better parent-child relationship while also nurturing empathy, honesty, resilience, and independence. Parents have an important task: figure out who their child is—his or her skills, preferences, beliefs, values, personality traits, goals, and direction—get comfortable with it, and then help them pursue and live a life according to it. Yet parents also want their kids to be independent, but not if they are going to make bad choices. They want to avoid being too overbearing, but not if an apathetic kid is what they have to show for it. They want to have a good relationship with their kids, but not if that means being a pushover. They don’t want to scream, but they do want to be heard. Good parenting is about striking the balance between a child’s characteristics and a parent’s desire to have influence. Dr. Ross Greene “makes a powerful case for rethinking typical approaches to parenting and disciplining children” (The Atlantic). Through his well-known model of solving problems collaboratively, parents can forgo timeout and sticker charts; stop badgering, berating, threatening, and punishing; allow their kids to feel heard and validated; and have influence. From homework to hygiene, curfews, to screen time, Dr. Greene “arms parents with guidelines that are clear, doable, and sure to empower both parents and their children” (Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen). Raising Human Beings is “inspirational…a game-changer for parents, teachers, and other caregivers. Its advice is reasonable and empathetic, and readers will feel ready to start creating a better relationship with the children in their lives” (Publishers Weekly, starred review).

Implement a more constructive approach to difficult students Lost and Found is a follow-up to Dr. Ross Greene''s landmark works, The Explosive Child and Lost at School, providing educators with highly practical, explicit guidance on implementing his Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) Problem Solving model with behaviorally-challenging students. While the first two books described Dr. Greene''s positive, constructive approach and described implementation on a macro level, this useful guide provides the details of hands-on CPS implementation by those who interact with these children every day. Readers will learn how to incorporate students'' input in understanding the factors making it difficult for them to meet expectations and in generating mutually satisfactory solutions. Specific strategies, sample dialogues, and time-tested advice help educators implement these techniques immediately. The groundbreaking CPS approach has been a revelation for parents and educators of behaviorally-challenging children. This book gives educators the concrete guidance they need to immediately begin working more effectively with these students. Implement CPS one-on-one or with an entire class Work collaboratively with students to solve problems Study sample dialogues of CPS in action Change the way difficult students are treated The discipline systems used in K-12 schools are obsolete, and aren''t working for the kids to whom they''re most often applied – those with behavioral challenges. Lost and Found provides a roadmap to a different paradigm, helping educators radically transform the way they go about helping their most challenging students.

The first comprehensive presentation for clinicians of the groundbreaking approach popularized in Ross Greene''s acclaimed parenting guide, The Explosive Child, this book provides a detailed framework for effective, individualized intervention with highly oppositional children and their families. Many vivid examples and Q&A sections show how to identify the specific cognitive factors that contribute to explosive and noncompliant behavior, remediate these factors, and teach children and their adult caregivers how to solve problems collaboratively. The book also describes challenges that may arise in implementing the model and provides clear and practical solutions. Two special chapters focus on intervention in schools and in therapeutic/restrictive facilities.

Help the students with concerning behaviors without detentions, suspensions, expulsions, paddling, restraint, and seclusion In the newly revised Second Edition of Lost and Found, distinguished child psychologist Dr. Ross W. Greene delivers an insightful and effective framework for educators struggling with students with concerning behaviors. The author’s Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) approach focuses on the problems that are causing concerning behaviors and helps school staff partner with students to solve those problems rather than simply modifying the behavior. In this book, you’ll discover: A more compassionate, practical, effective approach to students’ concerning behaviors, one that positions educators as allies, not enemies, and as partners, not adversaries Updated examples and dialogue suited to modern classrooms and recent innovations from the constantly evolving CPS model Specific advice on how schools can eliminate the use of punitive, exclusionary disciplinary procedures and address disproportionality Perfect for K-12 educators in general and special education, Lost and Found has also become standard reading for teachers-in-training, professors, and parents who struggle to help students for whom “everything” has already been tried.

A groundbreaking approach to understanding and parenting children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper and other intractable behaviors, from a distinguished clinician and pioneer in this field. What''s an explosive child? A child who responds to routine problems with extreme frustration--crying, screaming, swearing, kicking, hitting, biting, spitting, destroying property, and worse. A child whose frequent, severe outbursts leave his or her parents feeling frustrated, scared, worried, and desperate for help. Most of these parents have tried everything-reasoning, explaining, punishing, sticker charts, therapy, medication--but to no avail. They can''t figure out why their child acts the way he or she does; they wonder why the strategies that work for other kids don''t work for theirs; and they don''t know what to do instead. Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren''t attention-seeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren''t passive, permissive pushovers. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach to parenting. Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Dr. Greene provides a new conceptual framework for understanding their difficulties, based on research in the neurosciences. He explains why traditional parenting and treatment often don''t work with these children, and he describes what to do instead. Instead of relying on rewarding and punishing, Dr. Greene''s Collaborative Problem Solving model promotes working with explosive children to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, and teaching these kids the skills they lack.

Los niños explosivos responden a los problemas comunes con una extrema frustración: lloran, gritan, maldicen, patean, golpean, muerden, escupen, destruyen propiedad, y peor. Sus padres han intentado varias estrategias—razonar, explicar, castigar, gráficos con calcomanías, terapia, medicamentos—pero aún no tienen mucho qué mostrar por sus esfuerzos y se sienten frustrados, asustados, preocupados, y desesperados por obtener ayuda verdaderamente efectiva. Dr. Ross Greene, un psicólogo clínico distinguido y fundador en el tratamiento de niños con desafíos sociales, emocionales, y de comportamiento, ha trabajado con miles de niños explosivos, y él les tiene buenas noticias: estos niños no quieren llamar la atención, ni son manipulativos, y sus padres no son unos disciplinarios pasivos o permisivos. Más bien, a los niños explosivos les hace falta algunas habilidades en las áreas de flexibilidad/adaptabilidad, tolerancia a la frustración, y resolución de problemas, y ellos requieren un estilo de crianza muy diferente. A través de este libro compasivo, detallado, y práctico, Dr. Greene ofrece un nuevo marco conceptual para entender las dificultades de ellos. Él explica por qué los estilos tradicionales sobre la crianza de los niños y los tratamientos que también se han utilizado tradicionalmente, por lo regular no funcionan con estos niños. Él también describe qué hacer en lugar de usar estos viejos métodos. En vez de confiar en sistemas de premios y castigos, el modelo de Resolución de Problemas en Colaboración creado por el Dr. Greene promueve el trabajar con niños explosivos para resolver los problemas que causan episodios explosivos, y enseñarles las habilidades que ellos no tienen.

Strafarbeiten, Nachsitzen, Verweise - die üblichen Strategien zur Disziplinierung von schwierigen Kindern und Jugendlichen in unseren Schulen haben ein zentrales Manko: Sie funktionieren nur begrenzt oder gar nicht. Basierend auf Erkenntnissen der Neurowissenschaften entwickelt Ross W. Greene einen neuen Ansatz, wie Eltern und Lehrer besser mit herausfordernden Kindern umgehen können. Greene legt anschaulich dar, dass manipulierendes, störendes oder destruktives Verhalten von Kindern in der Schule hauptsächlich darauf zurückzuführen ist, dass ihnen die entscheidenden Fähigkeiten für angepasstes Verhalten fehlen. Ross W. Greene zeigt Eltern und Lehrern einen praktischen und einleuchtenden Weg, wie sie konstruktiv mit herausforderndem Verhalten umgehen können - bevor Kinder durchs Raster fallen. Die zweite Auflage wurde überarbeitet und aktualisiert: Es wurde unter anderem das Beurteilungsinstrument des in diesem Buch beschriebenen Modells überarbeitet und mit umfangreicheren Hilfestellungen für seine Anwendung versehen, zudem finden sich neue Vorgaben zum schriftlichen Formulieren ungelöster Probleme sowie Strategien zum "Nachbohren", die Betreuungspersonen durch den Prozess der Informationsbeschaffung führen.

Qu''est-ce qu''un " enfant explosif " ? C''est un enfant au comportement problématique, difficile, qui exprime ses frustrations plus souvent et plus fortement que les enfants " ordinaires ". C''est un enfant qui, à la moindre contrariété, peut crier, frapper, mordre, cracher, pleurer, bouder,. , ou manifester des crises d''angoisse, être dépressif et introverti, grincheux et irritable. Dans ce guide parental de référence, vous découvrirez une méthode thérapeutique préventive - destinée à anticiper et à éviter les moments de crise - et collaborative - faisant agir conjointement, en " partenariat ", adultes et enfants. Appliquée avec succès par d''innombrables parents, enseignants, médecins ou thérapeutes, cette méthode simple et efficace, validée scientifiquement, permet de comprendre les frustrations d''un enfant explosif, de canaliser ses émotions, de prévenir ses crises et de favoriser son épanouissement.

Kini dalam edisi ke-6 yang telah direvisi dan diperbarui, hadir pendekatan inovatif berbasis penelitian dari seorang dokter terkemuka yang pionir dalam bidangnya, untuk memahami dan mengasuh anak-anak yang sering kali menunjukkan sifat mudah marah dan perilaku menantang lainnya. Anak yang meledak-ledak merespons masalah rutin dengan rasa frustrasi yang ekstrem—menangis, menjerit, mengumpat, menendang, memukul, menggigit, meludah, merusak barang-barang, dan lainnya. Anak-anak ini sering mengalami ledakan emosi yang membuat orangtua merasa frustrasi, takut, khawatir, dan sangat membutuhkan bantuan. Sebagian besar orangtua ini telah mencoba semua hal—menalar, menjelaskan, menghukum, memberi ganjaran, terapi, pengobatan—tetapi tidak berhasil. Mereka tidak mengerti mengapa anak mereka bertindak seperti itu; mereka bertanya-tanya mengapa strategi yang berhasil untuk anak-anak lain tidak berhasil untuk anak-anak ini; dan mereka tidak tahu harus berbuat apa. Dr. Ross Greene, seorang dokter terkemuka dan pionir dalam pengobatan anak-anak dengan tantangan sosial, emosional, dan perilaku, telah bekerja dengan ribuan anak yang meledak-ledak, dan dia punya kabar baik: anak-anak ini tidak mencari perhatian, manipulatif, atau tidak termotivasi, dan orangtua mereka bukanlah orang yang pasif dan permisif. Sebaliknya, anak yang meledak-ledak ini ternyata kurang memiliki beberapa keterampilan penting dalam bidang fleksibilitas/kemampuan beradaptasi, toleransi terhadap rasa frustrasi, dan pemecahan masalah, dan mereka memerlukan pendekatan yang berbeda dalam pengasuhan anak. Melalui buku yang penuh wawasan dan praktis ini, Dr. Greene memberikan kerangka konseptual baru untuk memahami kesulitan mereka, berdasarkan penelitian di bidang ilmu saraf. Dia menjelaskan mengapa pola asuh dan pengobatan tradisional sering kali tidak berhasil pada anak-anak ini, dan dia menjelaskan apa yang harus dilakukan. Daripada mengandalkan ganjaran dan hukuman, model Pemecahan Masalah Kolaboratif Dr. Greene mempromosikan bekerja dengan anak-anak yang meledak-ledak untuk memecahkan masalah yang memicu episode ledakan, dan mengajari anak-anak ini keterampilan yang kurang mereka miliki.

Vi ved det godt: Skældud virker ikke. Det skader forholdet mellem barn og forælder, og barnet lærer ikke det, det får brug for som voksen, år du som forælder tromler dine egen vilje igennem. Men, hvad gør man så, når man ikke vil falde i skældud-fælden? Det har Ross W. Greene fundet en metode til, som alle forældre kan lære, og i sin nyeste bog ’Opdragelse uden skældud’ beskriver han metoden. Børneopdragelse i gråzone-land Ifølge Ross W. Greene behøver forældreskabet ikke at være en konstant balancegang mellem konflikt og kapitulation. “Når det i dag handler om børneopdragelse, er mange forældre i tvivl om, hvordan de skal gribe det an. De befinder sig i et gråzone-land mellem eftergivenhed og autoritære principper. De ønsker, at deres barn skal være et selvstændigt individ, men ikke hvis det fører til, at det træffer uheldige valg. De vil helst undgå at fremstå som strenge og pedantiske forældre, men ikke hvis resultatet bliver et uforskammet og trodsigt barn," forklarer Ross W. Greene Løs problemer i fællesskab Heldigvis er der en gylden middelvej mellem det rene forældreherredømme og total eftergivenhed på barnets præmisser. Voksne skal vise respekt overfor børnene og samarbejde med dem om at finde holdbare løsninger. For børn vil gerne samarbejde, og børn gør det godt, hvis de kan, mener Ross W. Greene. Men ofte har de ikke evnerne eller erfaringerne, der skal til for at gøre det. "Målet er ikke at være perfekt som forælder, især fordi det er umuligt at leve op til. Du skal heller ikke kon-stant drage dine egne beslutninger i tvivl. Målet er at reflektere over hvilken rolle, du spiller i dit barns liv, hvordan du får indflydelse og fremmer de karaktertræk, du værdsætter mest," forklarer han. Forståelse og kommunikation Opdragelse uden skældud er en metode til at forstå og kommunikere med børn ved hjælp af samarbejde frem for skældud. Bogen er praktisk anlagt og indeholder en lang eksempler på, hvordan man bruger metoden i hverdagen, og en række dialoger fra situationer, alle forældre kan nikke genkendende til. Den henvender sig til alle børnefamilier, der ønsker færre konflikter i hverdagen.

Beschrijving van een pedagogische benaderingswijze van moeilijk opvoedbare kinderen en jongeren.

화를 낸다고 아이는 달라지지 않는다! 아이의 감정을 읽어야 문제가 해결된다! 부모들은 흔히 아이가 문제 행동을 하는 것은 부모의 관심을 끌기 위한 의도적이고 계산된 행동이라고 생각한다. 하지만 이 책의 저자 로즈 그린 박사는 아이들이 일부러 그런 행동을 하는 것이 절대로 아니며, 단지 부모의 요구와 기대에 부응할 수 있는 능력을 갖추고 있지 못해서 문제 행동을 하는 것이라고 말한다. 즉 ‘안 하는 것이 아니라 못 하는 것’이라는 말이다. 그래서 그는 아이의 문제 행동을 근본적으로 해결하기 위해서는 내 아이에게 부족한 능력이 무엇인지 체크하고 그로 인해 발생하는 미해결 문제를 파악하여 부모와 아이가 함께 문제를 해결하기 위해 노력해야 한다고 말한다. 이 책의 저자인 로즈 그린 박사는 30년이 넘는 세월 동안 문제 행동을 하는 아이들과 가족들에 대한 상담과 치료를 통해 세계 최고의 권위자로 인정받고 있다. 그는 이 책에서 구체적이고 다양한 사례를 통해 아이들이 문제 행동을 일으키는 이유에 대해 쉽게 이해할 수 있도록 안내하고, 그에 대한 해결책도 ‘플랜B’라는 개념으로 명확하게 제시하고 있다. 독자들은 이 책을 통해 아이의 감정을 읽지 못해서 항상 미안해하는 부모가 아닌, 내 아이의 답답한 마음을 이해해주는 동시에 아이의 미래에 든든한 버팀목이 되는 부모로 거듭날 수 있을 것이다.

From a New York Times bestselling authority on education comes a groundbreaking guide to navigating classroom challenges through an approach that is proactive instead of reactive, collaborative instead of unilateral, and focuses on solving underlying problems rather than punishing the behaviors that are caused by those problems. Educators have never felt less safe at school and are leaving the profession in droves. There have never been more students with concerning behaviors, and the behaviors are more extreme than ever. And there has never been more pressure—on both kids and educators—to achieve. Dr. Ross Greene, renowned for his pioneering work in education, observes that a huge part of the problem relates to the practices schools have traditionally used when working with students with concerning behaviors; practices which have become obsolete and counterproductive. Those practices share three common characteristics: (1) they’re reactive (late) rather than proactive (early); (2) they’re unilateral rather than collaborative; and (3) they’re focused on concerning behaviors (modifying them) rather than the problems that are causing those behaviors (and solving them). For years, we’ve been training educators what to do once students are already escalated; in order to move things in the right direction, we need to be training educators on what to do so students don’t become escalated in the first place. That’s true crisis prevention. Building on the principles introduced in his landmark, New York Times bestselling book, Lost at School, Greene shows readers how to focus on identifying and solving problems with students, how to be early and collaborative, and how to refine structures and policies in schools to accomplish the mission. He underscores the importance of meeting students where they are and recognizing that concerning behaviors and crises typically arise from unmet expectations and the frustration they provoke. Greene equips educators and caregivers with the tools to foster safer, more inclusive learning environments. In easy-to-understand, practical terms, Greene provides a clear roadmap for turning things around, complete with vignettes, case studies, and the voices of educators who’ve done it. This book offers actionable solutions that can transform the educational experience for all students and their caregivers and shows that real change is possible. As our current school system navigates unprecedented challenges, this book serves as a vital resource—providing hope and guidance to create a better, more supportive future for students and educators alike.

Les enfants et les adolescents ayant des comportements excessifs et de refus de se conformer à des consignes présentent un défi important pour les parents et une source de stress pour les autres membres de la famille. Habituellement les enfants et les adolescents ayant ces difficultés sont souvent incompris et leur trouble de comportement sont souvent traités dans les disciplines traditionnelles touchant le développement de l''attention, la motivation et la compréhension de la manipulation. Cependant, les recherches suggèrent maintenant que ces enfants et adolescents auraient plutôt des lacunes dans leurs aptitudes cognitives essentielles à la gestion de leur frustration, la résolution de problème et les compétences pour nuancer leur flexibilité et leur adaptabilité à certaine situations. En somes, ces enfants et adolescents sont mieux compris dans des contextes de difficultés d''apprentissage et ils profitent de manière plus importante de l''apprentissage de ces habiletés

"Cuando nos toca ser padres, la vida se nos llena de dilemas y conflictos: queremos que nuestros hijos sean independientes pero que no tomen malas decisiones. No queremos ser autoritarios pero tampoco que se vuelvan apáticos, irrespetuosos o que no nos tomen en serio. ¿Qué hacemos entonces? Esta es una estupenda guía de herramientas pensada para ayudar a educar a los hijos (niños y adolescentes) de forma no conflictiva en situaciones muy cotidianas que van desde los deberes hasta la higiene, pasando por la hora para volver a casa o por el tiempo que se puede estar frente a una pantalla." --Amazon.com.

Guide for parents of easily frustrated, chronically inflexible children that lays out a practical approach to helping children at home and school, and shows parents how to handle their child''s difficulties competently and with compassion.