Most Popular Books by Robert Karen

In this "provocative primer on the nature versus nurture debate" ("Mirabella"), psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insights into some of the most fundamental questions of emotional life. He traces the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology.

A fascinating book about our struggle to forgive—and how we can—from a renowned psychologist and award-winning author. Why do we harden our hearts, even against those we want to love? Why do we find it so hard to admit being wrong? Why are the worst grudges the ones we hold against ourselves? When we nurse our resentments, Robert Karen says, we are acting from an insecure aspect of the self that harbors unresolved pain from childhood. But we also have a forgiving self which is not compliant or fake, but rather the strongest, most loving part of who we are. Through it, we are able to voice anger without doing damage, to acknowledge our own part in what has gone wrong, to see the flaws in ourselves and others as part of our humanity. Using movies, people in the news, and sessions from his practice, Karan illuminate how we can move beyond our feelings of being wronged without betraying our legitimate anger and need for repair. The forgiving self, when we are able to locate it, brings relief from compulsive self-hatred and bitterness, and allows for a re-emergence of love.

Book on film editing

In this provocative, refreshing book, Robert Karen gives readers everywhere the next step in self-help books: a book that convincingly explains the conflict of power in relationships and how to deal with it through recognizable composite characters.

In a dog-eat-dog world, it is a constant struggle to remain on top! More than just another self-help book, Top Dog Bottom Dog is engrossing and entertaining--an invaluable guide for coming to grips with power at home, at work, and in the sexual arena.

Bør vi alltid tilgi de som har såret oss? Er det mulig å bli tilgitt selv, for svik og tankeløshet? Hva skal til for at man skal klare å tilgi? Disse spørsmålene berører kjernen i mange konflikter: på den ene siden ønsker vi å gjenopprette og reparere ødelagte relasjoner, men samtidig ønsker vi å se på oss selv som ofre og vi ønsker hevn mot de som har såret: foreldrene våre, ektefellen, kjæresten, naboen. Robert Karen skriver at tilgivelse er en kamp for oss alle, og at vi ikke kan tilgi hvis vi ikke vedkjenner oss negative følelser, spesielt sinne. Han går grundig inn i følelsene som ødelegger forhold: hat, bitterhet, narsissisme, misunnelse og forteller om sorgprosessen, det sunne sinnet og gjenoppbyggingen av kjærligheten som må til for at vi skal kunne slippe de negative følelsene. Karen bruker sine erfaringer som klinisk psykolog, og trekker også inn litteratur, film og hendelser i samtiden for å belyse temaet.