New Releases by Peggy Orenstein

“Orenstein is such a breezy, funny writer, it’s easy to forget she’s an important thinker too.”—People In this lively, funny memoir, Peggy Orenstein sets out to make a sweater from scratch—shearing, spinning, dyeing wool—and in the process discovers how we find our deepest selves through craft. Orenstein spins a yarn that will appeal to everyone. The COVID pandemic propelled many people to change their lives in ways large and small. Some adopted puppies. Others stress-baked. Peggy Orenstein, a lifelong knitter, went just a little further. To keep herself engaged and cope with a series of seismic shifts in family life, she set out to make a garment from the ground up: learning to shear sheep, spin and dye yarn, then knitting herself a sweater. Orenstein hoped the project would help her process not just wool but her grief over the recent death of her mother and the decline of her dad, the impending departure of her college-bound daughter, and other thorny issues of aging as a woman in a culture that by turns ignores and disdains them. What she didn’t expect was a journey into some of the major issues of our time: climate anxiety, racial justice, women’s rights, the impact of technology, sustainability, and, ultimately, the meaning of home. With her wry voice, sharp intelligence, and exuberant honesty, Orenstein shares her year-long journey as daughter, wife, mother, writer, and maker—and teaches us all something about creativity and connection.

爸媽不說、孩子不談，就代表什麼壞事都不會發生嗎？ TED演講影片點閱破400萬次、最符合當代的性教育指南！ 除非雙方都明確同意性接觸，否則就算不同意。但是，說了「好」之後呢？ 如果不舒服，還能說「不」嗎？不想發生關係又該如何拒絕？ 為了找出答案，本書作者佩吉．奧倫斯坦開始和許多15～20歲的青少女對話，也和心理學家、醫生、教育家、社會學家等專家交流。她發現── 其實，比起網路上真真假假的訊息，孩子更想和自己信任的大人討論對性與愛的想法。 即使現代的家長比以往更關心孩子，大部分還是不知道或不習慣跟孩子討論性，也不了解他們對性的看法與他們的性行為。 然而，近來已有許多研究發現，當大人越是不談、不教、不准，孩子越容易從網路、流行文化、朋友身上學到錯誤、偏頗的性知識，也可能因此無意中讓自己或別人陷入危險；相反地，如果父母能夠更坦率地分享，孩子反而不會亂來，也更懂得如何保護自己。 這本書，將幫助爸媽面對自己的不自在，克服自己的成見，趕上孩子的進度，好好了解青少女的性是怎麼回事，成為彼此更好的盟友。 ◎榮獲獎項 《時代雜誌》2016年度十大圖書 《舊金山紀事報》2016年度百大推薦圖書 《紐約時報》暢銷圖書 美國Amazon 2016年度編輯選書 美國Amazon 4.6星高分好評 Goodreads 4星熱烈迴響 ◎專文推薦 外科醫師 劉宗瑀(小劉醫師) 芸光兒童與青少年性諮商中心 諮商心理師 王嘉琪 ◎專業推薦 POP Radio電臺臺長／主持人 林書煒 諮商心理師 許妮婷 親職專欄作家 陳安儀 心理師 陳雪如Ashley 親職作家 番紅花 親子部落客 蘋果vs西打 ◎國外好評 「佩吉．奧倫斯坦說出了很重要且經常被誤解的話題。」──雪柔．桑德伯格，Facebook營運長、紐時暢銷書《挺身而進》作者 「書中所提出的，攸關我們女兒（噢，還有兒子）的情緒健康和安全。」──蘿瑟琳．魏斯曼（Rosalind Wiseman），美國知名育兒教育家、作家 「所有關心女孩、女人、人類的人必讀。我認真考慮辭掉工作，到全國瘋狂推銷這本書。」──拉什達．瓊斯（Rashida Jones），演員、製片人、作家 「如果你打算聊聊21世紀的女生，那你一定要讀這本書。」──凱特琳．莫倫（Caitlin Moran），《泰晤士報》記者

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Now in paperback—Peggy Orenstein, author of the groundbreaking New York Times bestseller Girls & Sex, turns her focus to the sexual lives of young men. “Eye-opening…. Every few pages, the boy world cracks open a little bit…. Even in the most anxiety-provoking moments of Boys & Sex, it’s clear that Orenstein believes in the goodness of boys and the men they can become, and she believes in us, as parents, to raise them” (New York Times Book Review). Peggy Orenstein’s Girls & Sex broke ground, shattered taboos, and launched conversations about young women’s right to pleasure and agency in sexual encounters. It also had an unexpected effect on its author: Orenstein realized that talking about girls is only half the conversation. Boys are subject to the same cultural forces as girls—steeped in the same distorted media images and binary stereotypes of female sexiness and toxic masculinity—which equally affect how they navigate sexual and emotional relationships. In Boys & Sex, Peggy Orenstein dives back into the lives of young people to once again give voice to the unspoken, revealing how young men understand and negotiate the new rules of physical and emotional intimacy. Drawing on comprehensive interviews with young men, psychologists, academics, and experts in the field, Boys & Sex dissects so-called locker room talk; how the word “hilarious” robs boys of empathy; pornography as the new sex education; boys’ understanding of hookup culture and consent; and their experience as both victims and perpetrators of sexual violence. By surfacing young men’s experience in all its complexity, Orenstein is able to unravel the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important realities of young male sexuality in today’s world. The result is a provocative and paradigm-shifting work that offers a much-needed vision of how boys can truly move forward as better men.

The New York Times bestselling author of Girls & Sex and Cinderella Ate My Daughter delivers her first ever collection of essays—funny, poignant, deeply personal and sharply observed pieces, drawn from three decades of writing, which trace girls’ and women’s progress (or lack thereof) in what Orenstein once called a “half-changed world.” Named one of the “40 women who changed the media business in the last 40 years” by Columbia Journalism Review, Peggy Orenstein is one of the most prominent, unflinching feminist voices of our time. Her writing has broken ground and broken silences on topics as wide-ranging as miscarriage, motherhood, breast cancer, princess culture and the importance of girls’ sexual pleasure. Her unique blend of investigative reporting, personal revelation and unexpected humor has made her books bestselling classics. In Don’t Call Me Princess, Orenstein’s most resonant and important essays are available for the first time in collected form, updated with both an original introduction and personal reflections on each piece. Her takes on reproductive justice, the infertility industry, tensions between working and stay-at-home moms, pink ribbon fear-mongering and the complications of girl culture are not merely timeless—they have, like Margaret Atwood’s The Handmaid’s Tale, become more urgent in our contemporary political climate. Don’t Call Me Princess offers a crucial evaluation of where we stand today as women—in our work lives, sex lives, as mothers, as partners—illuminating both how far we’ve come and how far we still have to go.

Garotas & sexo é um retrato desconcertante do contexto sexual que as mulheres enfrentam hoje em dia na passagem da adolescência para a vida adulta. Referência no tema juventude e sexualidade nos Estados Unidos, a jornalista e escritora Peggy Orenstein entrevistou dezenas de garotas (de diferentes origens e orientações sexuais) no ensino médio e na faculdade, além de psicólogas, educadoras e especialistas. As conversas, sempre francas e reveladoras, apresentam um quadro perturbador que a autora discute sem moralismos - dando voz às garotas, refletindo sobre o seu empoderamento e invocando a sensibilidade masculina. Desfazendo mitos e preconceitos, Orenstein aborda temas difíceis e muitas vezes silenciados como cultura do estupro, machismo, virgindade, pornografia e falta de informação sobre o prazer feminino. E faz um chamado urgente para a necessidade de dialogarmos, esquecermos preconceitos e nos educarmos - tanto adultos quanto jovens. Um livro indispensável para mulheres, homens, garotas, garotos, mães, pais, professores e responsáveis.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER A Time Top 10 Book of the Year • A San Francisco Chronicle Book of the Year The author of the New York Times bestseller Cinderella Ate My Daughter offers a clear-eyed picture of the new sexual landscape girls face in the post-princess stage—high school through college—and reveals how they are negotiating it. A generation gap has emerged between parents and their girls. Even in this age of helicopter parenting, the mothers and fathers of tomorrow’s women have little idea what their daughters are up to sexually or how they feel about it. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over seventy young women and a wide range of psychologists, academics, and experts, renowned journalist Peggy Orenstein goes where most others fear to tread, pulling back the curtain on the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important possibilities of girls’ sex lives in the modern world. While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of rape on campus, in Girls and Sex Peggy Orenstein brings much more to the table. She examines the ways in which porn and all its sexual myths have seeped into young people’s lives; what it means to be the “the perfect slut” and why many girls scorn virginity; the complicated terrain of hookup culture and the unfortunate realities surrounding assault. In Orenstein’s hands these issues are never reduced to simplistic “truths;” rather, her powerful reporting opens up a dialogue on a potent, often silent, subtext of American life today—giving readers comprehensive and in-depth information with which to understand, and navigate, this complicated new world.

Peggy Orenstein’s bestselling Schoolgirls is the classic study of teenage girls and self-esteem. Now Orenstein uses the same interviewing and reporting skills to examine the lives of women in their 20s, 30s and 40s. The advances of the women’s movement allow women to grow up with a sense of expanded possibilities. Yet traditional expectations have hardly changed. To discover how they are navigating this double burden personally and professionally, Orenstein interviewed hundreds of women and has blended their voices into a compelling narrative that gets deep inside their lives and choices. With unusual sensitivity, Orenstein offers insight and inspiration for every woman who is making important decisions of her own.

Peggy Orenstein, acclaimed author of the groundbreaking New York Times bestsellers Girls & Sex and Schoolgirls, offers a radical, timely wake-up call for parents, revealing the dark side of a pretty and pink culture confronting girls at every turn as they grow into adults. Sweet and sassy or predatory and hardened, sexualized girlhood influences our daughters from infancy onward, telling them that how a girl looks matters more than who she is. Somewhere between the exhilarating rise of Girl Power in the 1990s and today, the pursuit of physical perfection has been recast as the source of female empowerment. And commercialization has spread the message faster and farther, reaching girls at ever-younger ages. But how dangerous is pink and pretty, anyway? Being a princess is just make-believe; eventually they grow out of it . . . or do they? In search of answers, Peggy Orenstein visited Disneyland, trolled American Girl Place, and met parents of beauty-pageant preschoolers tricked out like Vegas showgirls. The stakes turn out to be higher than she ever imagined. From premature sexualization to the risk of depression to rising rates of narcissism, the potential negative impact of this new girlie-girl culture is undeniable—yet armed with awareness and recognition, parents can effectively counterbalance its influence in their daughters'' lives.

Buffeted by one jaw-dropping obstacle after another, Orenstein seeks answers both medical and spiritual, all the while trying to save a marriage threatened by cycles, appointments, procedures, and disappointments. Her journey takes her around America and as far as East Asia - on the way she visits an ex-boyfriend who now has fifteen children; encounters ''parasite singles'' in Tokyo, women who are rejecting marriage and motherhood in favour of shopping sprees and foreign travel; and shares stories with survivors of the atomic bomb in Hiroshima. The world''s professional women are only now beginning to become aware of the risks and realities of ''having it all'', and Orenstein''s saga unfolds as infertility is developing into a boom industry, with over a million women a year seeking treatment. Waiting for Daisy is a profoundly honest, wryly funny report from the front, a story about doing all the things you swore you''d never do to get something you hadn''t even been sure you wanted; it''s about being a woman, about trying to become a mother, and above all, about the ambivalence, obsession and sacrifice that characterises the struggles of so many modern couples.

Peggy tak ingin menimang seorang bayi. Pernikahan dengan pria yang dicintainya pun tak membuatnya berubah pikiran. Pada usia tiga puluh dua, dengan karier jurnalis-penulis yang berada di pundak, menjadi ibu tak ada dalam daftarnya. Peggy ketakutan melihat satu per satu temannya memiliki anak dan melepaskan pekejaan mereka demi keluarga. Oh, tidak dia tak akan mampu. Tetapi ternyata jauh di dalam hatinya, Peggy masih menyimpan ragu. Naluri kewanitaannya menyeruak pelan, menggoyahkan prinsipnya. Sampai ketika berusia tiga puluh lima, duka akibat kehilangan beberapa orang dekat membuat Peggy berubah pikiran, dia memutuskan untuk menyumbangkan kehidupan kepada dunia ini. Peggy ingin memiliki seorang bayi. Tetapi impian itu koyak. Semua harapannya runtuh seketika, saat Peggy divonis menderita kanker payudara. Dia marah, menangis, menyesali nasib, dan hatinya terus bertanya-tanya, apakah ini hukuman Tuhan? Detik-detik umurnya berllau cepat, tetapi sang buah hati tak kunjung tiba. Satu demi satu keguguran dilaluinya dengan sedih. Segala usaha dia lakukan, bahkan termasuk bayi tabung dan adopsi. Pada akhirnya, enam tahun penantian yang penuh perjuangan itu pun mengajarkan kepda Peggy apa arti dari sebuah karunia Tuhan. [Mizan, Hikmah, Inspirasi, Indonesia]

For the first time, a generation of women is growing up for whom sex discrimination has always been illegal; who have always had access to contraception; and who have entered the workforce with the knowledge that they can hold any job a man can. On the surface, feminism has achieved a revolution for women. But often the choices young women seem to make freely are painful decisions forced on them, compromises in which their whole self cannot be expressed. This is the conflict that Peggy Orenstein''s unique study, based on interviews with a wide range of women from 25-40 explores.

A NEW YORK TIMES NOTABLE BOOK OF THE YEAR When Peggy Orenstein''s now-classic examination of young girls and self-esteem was first published, it set off a groundswell that continues to this day. Inspired by an American Association of University Women survey that showed a steep decline in confidence as girls reach adolescence, Orenstein set out to explore the obstacles girls face--in school, in the hoime, and in our culture. For this intimate, girls'' eye view of the world, Orenstein spent months observing and interviewing eighth-graders from two ethnically disparate communities, seeking to discover what was causing girls to fall into traditional patterns of self-censorship and self-doubt. By taking us into the lives of real young women who are struggling with eating disorders, sexual harrassment, and declining academic achievement, Orenstein brings the disturbing statistics to life with the skill and flair of an experienced journalist. Uncovering the adolescent roots of issues that remain important to American women throughout their lives, this groundbreaking book challenges us to change the way we raise and educate girls.

Katherine Mansfield''s contribution to modern British fiction has been virtually ignored in recent years; the two major periods of critical attention to her work were in the 1920''s (right after her death) and the early 1950''s. Critics of both groups have given extensive consideration to Mansfield''s experimentation--independent of Virginia Woolf and James Joyce--with interior monologue, shifting narrative perspective and moments of revelation However, analyses of Mansfield have predominantly ignored her concerns as a woman writer. Mansfield examines women''s roles and women''s sexuality in nearly all of her stories; she probes women''s circumstances from their own perspective and shows the effect of the male on the female world. Mansfield''s development as an exponent of women''s concerns is a subject well worth critical attention. For a full appreciation of her artistic achievement this development must be seen in relation to the refinement of her technique. I would argue that it is not until the story "Prelude," approximately one-third of the way through her canon, that Mansfield cultivates the aesthetic sophistication necessary for a rounded portrayal of womanhood. Her earliest stories, particularly the German Pension stories, are crudely rendered. They have neither the depth of characterization nor the subtlety of style necessary to uphold their ambitious theme. "Prelude" is a pivotal work in Mansfield''s career. In this I piece she presents a community of women stratified by age and class investigating their sexuality, struggling with the role of women in a world controlled by men. The contrasts of age and class fuse "Prelude" into a sort of compressed bildungsroman: each segment of the life-cycle is revealed, but the simultaneous presentation highlights the relationships among the stages. The stylistic devices of interior monologue, a shifting narrative point of view and intricate patterns of imagery entwine the women''s lives and draw together the threads of Mansfield''s earlier stories in an artistically successful, poetic piece. Further, "Prelude" paves the way for Mansfield''s later, successful stories. The stylistic techniques of "Prelude" are carried over into later works as is the theme of communities of women shaped by men, and the issue of rebellion versus stultification.