Best Selling Books by Mary Pipher

#1 New York Times Bestseller The groundbreaking work that poses one of the most provocative questions of a generation: what is happening to the selves of adolescent girls? As a therapist, Mary Pipher was becoming frustrated with the growing problems among adolescent girls. Why were so many of them turning to therapy in the first place? Why had these lovely and promising human beings fallen prey to depression, eating disorders, suicide attempts, and crushingly low self-esteem? The answer hit a nerve with Pipher, with parents, and with the girls themselves. Crashing and burning in a “developmental Bermuda Triangle,” they were coming of age in a media-saturated culture preoccupied with unrealistic ideals of beauty and images of dehumanized sex, a culture rife with addictions and sexually transmitted diseases. They were losing their resiliency and optimism in a “girl-poisoning” culture that propagated values at odds with those necessary to survive. Told in the brave, fearless, and honest voices of the girls themselves who are emerging from the chaos of adolescence, Reviving Ophelia is a call to arms, offering important tactics, empathy, and strength, and urging a change where young hearts can flourish again, and rediscover and reengage their sense of self.

“Simple solutions for survival in this family-unfriendly culture…Eye-opening…heart-wrenching and uplifting.”—San Francisco Chronicle Even more resonant today than at its original publication in 1996, The Shelter of Each Other traces the effects of our society’s “anti-family” way of life, where parents are overtaxed, children are undersupervised, and technology is rapidly dictating how we interact. As she did in her number-one bestseller Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher illuminates how our families are suffering at the hands of shifting cultural norms, and she snaps our gaze into crisp focus. Drawing on the fascinating stories of families rich and poor, angry and despairing, religious and skeptical, and probing deep into her own family memories and experiences, Pipher clears a path to the strength and energy at the core of family life. Compassionate and heart-wrenching, The Shelter of Each Other is an impassioned call for us to gather our families in our arms and hold on to them for dear life.

New York Times Bestseller * USA Today Bestseller* Los Angeles Times Bestseller * Publishers Weekly Bestseller A guide to wisdom, authenticity, and bliss for women as they age by the author of Reviving Ophelia. Women growing older contend with ageism, misogyny, and loss. Yet as Mary Pipher shows, most older women are deeply happy and filled with gratitude for the gifts of life. Their struggles help them grow into the authentic, empathetic, and wise people they have always wanted to be. In Women Rowing North, Pipher offers a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, caregiver, clinical psychologist, and cultural anthropologist, she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face. “If we can keep our wits about us, think clearly, and manage our emotions skillfully,” Pipher writes, “we will experience a joyous time of our lives. If we have planned carefully and packed properly, if we have good maps and guides, the journey can be transcendent.”

From the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia, Another Country, and The Shelter of Each Other comes an inspirational book that shows how words can change the world. Words are the most powerful tools at our disposal. With them, writers have saved lives and taken them, brought justice and confounded it, started wars and ended them. Writers can change the way we think and transform our definitions of right and wrong. Writing to Change the World is a beautiful paean to the transformative power of words. Encapsulating Mary Pipher''s years as a writer and therapist, it features rousing commentary, personal anecdotes, memorable quotations, and stories of writers who have helped reshape society. It is a book that will shake up readers'' beliefs, expand their minds, and possibly even inspire them to make their own mark on the world.

The 25th anniversary edition of the iconic book, revised and updated for 21st-century adolescent girls and their families. In 1994, Reviving Ophelia was published, and it shone a much-needed spotlight on the problems faced by adolescent girls. The book became iconic and helped to reframe the national conversation about what author Mary Pipher called "a girl-poisoning culture" surrounding adolescents. Fast forward to today, and adolescent girls and the parents, teachers, and counselors who care about them find themselves confronting many of the same challenges Pipher wrote about originally as well as new ones specific to today. Girls still struggle with misogyny, sexism, and issues of identity and self-esteem. But they''re also more isolated than ever before: They don''t talk face-to-face to the people around them, including their peers, as they used to: They''re texting or on social media for hours at a time. And while girls today are less likely to be in trouble for their drinking or sexual behavior, they have a greater chance of becoming depressed, anxious, or suicidal. In this revised and updated Reviving Ophelia, Pipher and her daughter, Sara Pipher Gilliam (who was a teenager at the time of the book''s original publication), have incorporated these new issues for a 21st-century readership. In addition to examining the impact that social media has on adolescent girls'' lives today, Pipher and Gilliam explore the rising and empowering importance of student activism in girls'' lives, the wider acceptance of diverse communities among young people, and the growing disparities between urban and rural, rich and poor, and how they can affect young girls'' sense of self-worth. With a new foreword and afterword and chapters that explore these topics, this new edition of Reviving Ophelia builds on the relevance of the original as it provides key insights into the challenges and opportunities facing adolescent girls today. The approach Pipher and Gilliam take in the new edition is just what it was in the original: a timely, readable combination of insightful research and real-world examples that illuminate the challenges young women face and the ways to address them. This updated Reviving Ophelia looks at 21st century adolescent girls through fresh eyes, with insights and ideas that will help new generations of readers.

A USA Today Must Read New Book From the bestselling author of Women Rowing North and Reviving Ophelia-a memoir in essays reflecting on radiance, resilience, and the constantly changing nature of reality. In her luminous new memoir in essays, Mary Pipher-as she did in her New York Times bestseller Women Rowing North-taps into a cultural moment, to offer wisdom, hope, and insight into loss and change. Drawing from her own experiences and expertise as a psychologist specializing in women, trauma, and the effect of our culture on our mental health, she looks inward in A Life in Light to what shaped her as a woman, one who has experienced darkness throughout her life but was always drawn to the light. Her plainspoken depictions of her hard childhood and life''s difficulties are dappled with moments of joy and revelation, tragedies and ordinary miseries, glimmers and shadow. As a child, she was separated from her parents for long periods. Those separations affected her deeply, but in A Life in Light she explores what she''s learned about how to balance despair with joy, utilizing and sharing with readers every coping skill she has honed during her lifetime to remind us that there is a silver thread of resilience that flows through all of life, and that despite our despair, the light will return. In this book, she points us toward that light.

We live in an appearance-obsessed culture. Fashion ads, magazine covers, TV shows, and movies idealize a body type that is impossible for most real women to achieve. In this comforting, liberating book, Dr. Mary Pipher, bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia, offers advice, counsel, and practical solutions for understanding our needs, our fears, and our many hungers. She shows us how we can at last learn to live at peace with the natural differences in our bodies and appetites. The rates of anorexia, bulimia, and depression for women are the highest they have ever been, and begin at ever younger ages. Dr. Pipher reveals how society encourages our misery and prevents us from accepting our looks. Indeed, for many women the humiliation of overweight or obesity is a wound that never heals. Dr. Pipher reminds us that accepting our bodies the way they are is the greatest gift we can give ourselves.

Mary Pipher''s groundbreaking investigation of America''s "girl-poisoning culture," Reviving Ophelia, has sold nearly two million copies and established its author as one of the nation''s foremost authorities on family issues. In Letters to a Young Therapist, Dr. Pipher shares what she has learned in thirty years as a therapist, helping warring families, alienated adolescents, and harried professionals restore peace and beauty to their lives. Letters to a Young Therapist gives voice to her practice with an exhilarating mix of storytelling and sharp-eyed observation. And while her letters are addressed to an imagined young therapist, every one of us can take something away from them. Long before "positive psychology" became a buzzword, Dr. Pipher practiced a refreshingly inventive therapy -- fiercely optimistic, free of dogma or psychobabble, and laced with generous warmth and practical common sense. But not until now has this gifted healer described her unique perspective on how therapy can help us revitalize our emotional landscape in an increasingly stressful world. Whether she''s recommending daily swims for a sluggish teenager, encouraging a timid husband to become bolder, or simply bearing witness to a bereaved parent''s sorrow, Dr. Pipher''s compassion and insight shine from every page of this thoughtful and engaging book.

"Mary Pipher takes on our planet''s greatest problems with the skills of a truly gifted therapist. She knows why we avoid and deny the truth and she knows how we can heal ourselves and our communities even as we try to heal the earth. This book is a deep and true gift."—Bill McKibben, author of Eaarth In Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher offered a paradigm-shattering look at the lives of adolescent women. Now Pipher is back with another ground-breaking examination of everyday life, this time exploring how to conquer our fears about the major environmental issues that confound us and transform them into a positive force in our lives. Pipher emphasizes the importance of taking small, positive steps to preserve what’s important, drawing from her own experiences as part of a group fighting energy company TransCanada’s installation of the Keystone XL oil pipeline across the Midwest, which will sit atop the Ogallala Aquifer, the source of 40% of the United States’ fresh water. The challenges she confronts reveal surprising answers to the critical questions we face: How do we mobilize ourselves and our communities to work together to solve global problems? How do we stay happy amid very difficult situations? And what is the true meaning of hope? Both profound and practical, The Green Boat explains how we can attend to the world around us with calmness, balance, and great love.

Muchas jovencitas viven su adolescencia con problemas serios, incluso con problemas que amenazan su integridad física, tales como la anorexia o el deseo de atentar contra su propia vida. Otras tienen problemas menos graves, pero más complicados aún, como el rechazo al colegio, las discusiones constantes con sus padres, irritabilidad, malas notas, soledad, etc. Algunas se autodesprecian o sufren la violencia sexual si decirlo. Mary Pipher nos ofrece en este libro -basado en más de veinte años trabajo como psicoterapeuta de niñas y adolescentes y respaldado con el testimonio de muchas de sus pacientes las claves para comprender su mundo y ayudarlas a aumentar su seguridad emocional y su autoprotección. Pero, y lo más importante, propone trabajar juntos para construir una sociedad más afectuosa, menos violenta y sexualizada que las conduzca a un desarrollo más positivo. Esta obra está dirigida a padres, educadores, profesionales de la salud y a todos aquellos que conozcan o amen a una adolescente - incluidas ellas mismas - para que todos podamos entender los problemas y las angustias que enfrentan en los conflictivos años de la adolescencia.

''Zo herkenbaar. Dezelfde leeftijd, dezelfde zoektocht, dezelfde uitkomst, kortom: zo ouder worden is een bonus.'' Ans Markus Het mooiste moet nog komen Ouder worden, we komen er niet onderuit. Je krijgt als vrouw te maken met zaken als verlies en ouderdomskwalen. Maar uit onderzoek blijkt ook dat de meeste vrouwen op latere leeftijd juist het gelukkigst zijn met hun leven en dankbaar zijn voor de wijsheid die ze tot dan toe hebben verzameld. Door moeilijke momenten zijn ze in de loop der jaren uitgegroeid tot de authentieke, empathische en wijze mensen die ze altijd al wilden zijn. Psychologe en bestsellerauteur Mary Pipher onderzoekt in haar boek de manieren waarop vrouwen veerkrachtig zijn geworden door de uitdagingen waarmee ze werden geconfronteerd. Ze deelt in Het mooiste moet nog komen zowel haar eigen wijsheid en ervaringen als dochter, zus, moeder, grootmoeder en vriendin als die van anderen. Dit boek gaat over de vaardigheden en de mentaliteit die je nodig hebt om het verleden los te laten, het nieuwe te omarmen, om te gaan met verdriet en te kunnen genieten van je wijsheid, authenticiteit, waardigheid en geluk. Het geeft je handreikingen wat je als je ouder wordt helpt, opvrolijkt en verrijkt. Het mooiste moet nog komen is een handboek om de beste versie van jezelf te worden, welke leeftijd je ook hebt. De auteur Mary Pipher (1947) studeerde culturele antropologie en klinische psychologie. Ze is gespecialiseerd in de gevolgen van onze cultuur op onze mentale gezondheid. Om deze reden wordt ze ook wel de ''cultureel therapeute'' van haar generatie genoemd. Ze heeft verschillende New York Times-bestsellers geschreven, waaronder Reviving Ophelia, The Shelter of Each Other en Another Country. Ze woont in Lincoln, Nebraska met haar man Jim. Recensies ''Er is licht. Er is altijd licht. Ook als het leven rake klappen uitdeelt, kun je je diep gelukkig voelen. Dat is het mooie van dit boek.'' Lisette Schuitemaker, auteur van Gelukkig zonder kinderen ''De eerlijkheid waarmee Mary Pipher schrijft over hoe het in deze maatschappij voelt om een "oudere" vrouw te zijn, maakt dat je wil blijven lezen. Een boek om moed uit te putten.'' Wies Enthoven, auteur van Het Oudste Dochter Effect ''Een gps-systeem voor het navigeren in je latere jaren.'' Considerable

Halt geben, ohne zu kontrollieren, und Freiheit gewähren, ohne die Grenzen zu verlieren – die Pubertät ist nicht nur für Töchter eine schwierige Zeit. Vielen Eltern ist meist gar nicht bewusst, dass sie ihren Töchtern mit widersprüchlichen Rollenerwartungen die ohnehin schon schwierige Zeit zusätzlich erschweren. Mit Mary Piphers Hilfestellungen können Eltern ihren Töchtern die Unterstützung geben, die diese so dringend brauchen, ohne sie einzuengen. (Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine frühere Ausgabe.)

Timoneiras é voltado para mulheres que atingiram a maturidade e desejam estar no caminho autoconsciente de sua própria felicidade no decorrer da vida. Composto de entrevistas, histórias e relatos de mulheres reais que passaram por todos os tipos de desafios em sua travessia, Timoneiras: Assumindo o leme da vida é um convite para a autorreflexão. Alguns temas são um passeio: o amor, o companheirismo, as aventuras, a diversão e a amizade. Outros, são abissais: imposição dos padrões de beleza, o machismo, a solidão do envelhecimento, a doença, a morte e o luto. A autora, Mary Pipher, é psicóloga clínica, antropóloga cultural, mãe, irmã e avó e passou a vida aprendendo que os caminhos impostos pela sociedade às mulheres podem se tornar um peso: a eterna juventude, o casamento, a maternidade, a ansiedade, a depressão, a invisibilidade da velhice, a boa educação, os obstáculos e os atalhos para o que se considera viver bem. Pipher sabe que as experiências são múltiplas e únicas, que variam de acordo com a classe social, raça, origem cultural e orientação sexual, porém, acredita no poder do compartilhamento, da troca e do aprendizado em conjunto. Timoneiras: Assumindo o leme da vida com o passar da idade é o início de um novo diálogo. Aprofunda-se na pluralidade e na vontade do viver, na exploração dos talentos e dos desafios que constituem a existência daquelas que sempre adentram novos trechos de rios. É um guia para a boa-venturança, uma amiga que ajuda a remar em direção à vida intensa, alegre ou dolorosa, complexa e linda. Seja pelos caminhos do Cabo da Boa Esperança ou da Tormenta, Mary Pipher indica que sempre há uma bonita paisagem para apreciar. “Explora os estereótipos e desafios de envelhecer e as habilidades de sobrevivência que as mulheres precisam para ser felizes.” - The Wall Street Journal “Prático e inspirador de uma só vez.” - The New York Times

Hoy en dia hay mas personas mayores que nunca. Esas personas son nuestros padres y abuelos, nuestras tias y tios, nuestros suegros, los padres de nuestros amigos. La gente vive mas tiempo, pero en una cultura que venera la juventud. Nuestros mayores crecieron en comunidades en las cuales la gente se buscaba y se ayudaba, y donde los hijos y los nietos vivian cerca. Hoy las familias se han dispersado. Las comunidades se han atomizado. Las personas de edad viven aisladas. Los hijos adultos viven luchando por repartir el tiempo entre sus propios hijos, sus empleos y sus padres que estan envejeciendo. Este es el dificil terreno que Mary Pipher, la autora del bestseller Que pasa con las ninas de hoy, ha decidido explorar en este nuevo libro. Con base en entrevistas con familias y personas de edad, Pipher traza un mapa del territorio que comparten las personas mayores y sus hijos, con el fin de ayudar a las distintas generaciones a entenderse mutuamente y a cerrar la brecha que existe hoy en dia entre gente de diferentes edades. El objetivo final es crear una sociedad en la cual tanto los viejos como los jovenes puedan convivir tranquilamente, apoyandose los unos a los otros y compartiendo su tiempo, energia y amor.