Best Selling Books by Kim John Payne

Today’s busier, faster society is waging an undeclared war on childhood. With too much stuff, too many choices, and too little time, children can become anxious, have trouble with friends and school, or even be diagnosed with behavioral problems. Now internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne helps parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom that all kids need for their attention to deepen and their individuality to flourish. Simplicity Parenting offers inspiration, ideas, and a blueprint for change: • Streamline your home environment. Reduce the amount of toys, books, and clutter—as well as the lights, sounds, and general sensory overload. • Establish rhythms and rituals. Discover ways to ease daily tensions, create battle-free mealtimes and bedtimes, and tell if your child is overwhelmed. • Schedule a break in the schedule. Establish intervals of calm and connection in your child’s daily torrent of constant doing. • Scale back on media and parental involvement. Manage your children’s “screen time” to limit the endless deluge of information and stimulation. A manifesto for protecting the grace of childhood, Simplicity Parenting is an eloquent guide to bringing new rhythms to bear on the lifelong art of raising children.

In this groundbreaking book, parenting expert and acclaimed author of the bestselling book Simplicity Parenting Kim John Payne, M.Ed., flips the script on children’s challenging or defiant behavior and lays out an elegantly simple plan to support parents in establishing loving, age-sensitive boundaries that help children feel safe and settled. In short: What looks like misbehavior is actually your children’s signal that they’re feeling lost, that they are trying to find direction and looking to you to guide them back on course. Payne gives parents heartwarming help and encouragement by combining astute observations with sensitive and often funny stories from his long career as a parent educator and a school and family counselor. In accessible language, he explains the relevance of current brain- and child-development studies to day-to-day parenting. Breaking the continuum of childhood into three stages, Payne says that parents need to play three different roles, each corresponding to one of those stages, to help steer children through their emotional growth and inevitable challenging times: • The Governor, who is comfortably and firmly in charge—setting limits and making decisions for the early years up to around the age of eight • The Gardener, who watches for emotional growth and makes decisions based on careful listening, assisting tweens in making plans that take the whole family’s needs into account • The Guide, who is both a sounding board and moral compass for emerging adults, helping teens build a sense of their life’s direction as a way to influence healthy decision making Practical and rooted in common sense, The Soul of Discipline gives parents permission to be warm and nurturing but also calm and firm (not overreactive). It gives clear, doable strategies to get things back on track for parents who sense that their children’s behavior has fallen into a troubling pattern. And best of all, it provides healthy direction to the entire family so parents can spend less time and energy on outmoded, punitive discipline and more on connecting with and enjoying their kids. Advance praise for The Soul of Discipline “The Soul of Discipline offers practical tools for helping parents implement discipline that’s respectful and effective, but the book is so much more. Kim John Payne offers a framework to guide parents in making decisions about why, when, and how to hold tighter reins as we build skills in our children, and why, when, and how to loosen the reins as we scaffold freedom.”—Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., co-author of No-Drama Discipline “This book gets deep inside the challenge of getting along with children and teens and thinks deeply about what they need from us to become strong and self-managing. It elevates discipline to what it should be—a caring process of helping kids orient to the world and live in it happily and well.”—Steve Biddulph, author of The New Manhood “Kim Payne provides a useful model for choosing our parenting stance—Governor, Gardener, or Guide—depending on the situation. Most powerfully, Payne begins with the radical view that children are not disobedient but rather disoriented. The upshot of this shift in perspective is that discipline is about helping children orient themselves effectively, not about controlling or chastising.”—Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting

A practical, meditative approach that can be used in the moment to help you stay calm and balanced when your child''s behavior is pushing you to your limit--by the popular author of Simplicity Parenting. When children are at their most difficult and challenging situations arise, how can we react in a way that reflects our family values and expectations? Often, when children “push our buttons,” we find ourselves reacting in ways that are far from our principles, often further inflaming a situation. When our children are at their worst, they need us to be at our best—or as close to it as we can be. Educator and family counselor Kim John Payne, author of Simplicity Parenting, offers techniques that simply and directly shift these damaging patterns in communication and parental behavior. These grounded and practical strategies will help you: • Slow down the interaction • Be more in control of your reactions • Open up a much wider range of helpful responses • Sense what your child’s deeper needs are even though they are misbehaving • Respond in a way that gives your child a feeling of being heard and still puts a boundary in place Payne’s meditative approach can be done anywhere, anytime; it lifts you out of old, unwanted patterns of action-reaction and prepares you so that the voice you speak with is closer to the parent you want to be. His concrete and simple techniques can help you, and your children, be at your best, even in the most challenging of times.

Essential reading for parents of grade schoolers through teens experiencing bullying, social exclusion, and teasing—with uplifting stories from young adults who have navigated those experiences and triumphed. The tween and teen years are rife with intense social challenges in school, friendships, sports, and other activities where instances of teasing, bullying, social exclusion and marginalization are unfortunately all too common. Social media has only made this behavior easier and more insidious. But when kids ages 9 and up can be coached by a parent to respond effectively, manage their emotions in social situations, and recognize their own self-worth, they can reclaim a sense of their own power and develop skills like resilience, social and emotional intelligence and compassion for life. Kim John Payne, a leading education consultant and parenting expert, and Luis Fernando Llosa, a writer and longtime sports coach, offer guidance and practical advice to parents, along with ten inspirational stories in the voice of young adults who have navigated bullying, teasing and social exclusion—and triumphed. The Emotionally Resilient Child gives tweens and teens the tools to address the problem themselves and develop mastery over the situation—rather than having parents step in and try to "fix" things. This book also gives parents vital proactive strategies to help build strong family relationships, trust and connection, so that kids can be better prepared for the inevitable social challenges life brings.

Beyond Winning with Whole Child Sports is a solution-based guide for parents who want to make sports a great experience for their kids. Newsworthy and controversial, compelling and compassionate, it offers a practical path to understanding and resolving the major sports-parenting dilemmas that millions of parents face today.

This classic games book offers a standby resource for parents, teachers, forest school educators and play leaders. The games are tried and tested. They draw on worldwide Steiner - Waldorf creative education, where a ''child''s work is their play.'' Child growth is explored and how this is helped by a rich treasury of action, finger, circle, clapping, beanbag, chasing, water, tumbling, story and singing games. There are both traditional favourites and also new games created to engage with digitally challenging behaviour.

★亞馬遜4.7星讀者好評★ 擺脫挫敗，找回身為父母的強大與平靜， 當孩子處於困境時，用愛接住他們。 當我們被孩子激怒、情緒到達臨界點時，總會不小心讓氣話脫口而出，但事後往往感到懊悔，甚至懷疑自己是否永遠無法成為心目中理想的父母。 這本特殊的教養書，焦點不是孩子，而是探索父母的自我情緒調節。作者身為教育者與家庭諮商師，於本書中提供12則簡單好上手的教養練習，幫助父母、教育工作者：  找回穩定的情緒與堅定的語氣  釐清自己的教養模式  建立有效的親子溝通管道  與孩子的互動變得平靜且穩定  感受在孩子叛逆行為背後更深層的需求  給予孩子既溫暖又能傳達家庭價值觀的回應 每天只要花少許時間練習，就能有效改善親子互動模式，找回內心的平靜與強大的自己，並在孩子需要時，給予最適切的關愛和擁抱。 ｜本書特色｜  相較於孩子的索求，作者明確以價值觀為中心，提供簡明扼要的教養練習，強調調整教養者自身的狀態。  作者使用平易近人的文字，描述自己與接觸到的案例，使讀者能在情境中，體會教養練習的方法與成效。  三大部分與各章首頁明確提示內容大要，讓讀者在熟悉教養練習之前能方便查詢、使用。 ｜誠摯推薦｜ 沈雅琪／神老師 黃瑽寧／馬偕醫院小兒科主治醫師 簡嫚書／演員 魏瑋志（澤爸）／親職教育講師 羅寶鴻／親職教育專家 （依首字筆畫排列） ｜各方讚譽｜ 幫助失控孩子的關鍵是自我控管的成年人。事實證明，這本書是實施這種注重成人的方法的實用指南，同時也是一項輕鬆而令人鼓舞的閱讀體驗。──《出版者周刊》（Publishers Weekly） 培恩提供的指南同時適合家長與教師，刺激我們思考「如何應對困難家庭狀況」的新框架。──《圖書館雜誌》（Library Journal） ｜讀者好評｜ 「很棒的、實用的、適用的建議。我很高興我買了它！」 「這本書是一份多麼好的禮物啊！如此簡潔、有幫助、才華洋溢。我擁有金‧約翰‧培恩的所有書，而這本書是我迄今為止最喜歡的！」 「絕對精彩。我非常感謝這本書，書中的思路和練習非常有幫助。」 （以上來源：Amazon）

Demasiadas cosas y demasiadas elecciones, a una velocidad acelerada y a una edad cada vez más temprana se han convertido en una guerra no declarada contra la niñez. La sociedad actual, obsesionada por la rapidez y el éxito, satura a los niños con libros y juguetes, actividades, estímulos y elecciones. Tanta presión provoca en los niños ansiedad, problemas de conducta y bajo rendimiento escolar. En este libro, Kim John Payne se pronuncia por la sencillez y reivindica el espacio y la libertad que un niño requiere para que florezca su individualidad. Los padres, libres de la presión de criar hijos perfectos, podrán disfrutar la crianza y nutrir la capacidad de resiliencia de sus hijos. Imagina... * el ambiente de tu hogar más simple y eficiente, con el espacio necesario que la creatividad de tus hijos necesita para crecer * contar con ritmos y ritos que den estructura y previsibilidad a la vida de tus hijos y les brinden calma y tranquilidad * tener descansos entre el torrente diario de una vida ajetreada, y regalarte un intervalo de calma y convivencia familiar * contener el diluvio interminable, y a veces escalofriante, de información y estimulación.

Nu există copii "obraznici" sau "îndărătnici", ci doar copii care se simt pierduți și care au nevoie de ghidarea părinților, susține celebrul expert în parenting Kim John Payne. Plecând de la această premisă, cartea oferă părinților un plan intuitiv pentru a stabili, cu iubire și tact, limitele de care copiii au nevoie pentru a se simți iubiți și în siguranță. Cartea urmează pașii de dezvoltare ai copiilor, propunând trei roluri parentale corespunzătoare: Guvernatorul (care stabilește limite și ia decizii pentru copiii mici), Grădinarul (care își ascultă și își însoțește preadolescentul) și Ghidul (care îl sprijină pe adolescent să intre cu dreptul în lumea adulților). Kim John Payne, specializat în științele educației, este consilier școlar și de familie, cu o bogată expertiză în probleme de parenting. Editura Trei a tradus bestsellerul său Mai puțin e mai bine. Cum ușurezi viața copiilor (2017)

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Waldorf Games Handbook for the Early Years - Games to Play & Sing with Children aged 3 to 7 A offers a handy guide to playing games with young children. This classic games book offers a standby resource for parents, teachers, forest school educators and play leaders. The games are tried and tested. They draw on worldwide Steiner - Waldorf creative education, where a child''s work is their play. Child growth is explored and how this is helped by a rich treasury of action, finger, circle, clapping, beanbag, chasing, water, tumbling, story and singing games. There are both traditional favourites and also new games created to engage with digitally challenging behaviour.

This collection of essays from an impressive variety of experienced teachers, therapists, doctors, and adult educators, gives teachers ideas, "tools," to assist children having difficulties in learning in usual ways. Each essay explains a different technique for reaching every child or for carrying a child experiencing problems through to better capacities and comprehension.

"Kim John Payne plantea una máxima radicalmente poderosa los niños no son desobedientes, más bien están desorientados. El resultado de este cambio de perspectiva es que la disciplina no es para controlar o castigar, sino para guiar. El autor brinda un marco sencillo para la toma de decisiones sobre por qué, cuándo y cómo mantener las riendas de la crianza más firmes, mientras los hijos desarrollan habilidades, o darles a esas riendas más juego, cuando los chicos van aprendiendo a caminar libremente."--page 4 of cover.