New Releases by Deborah Tannen

In this new book, author Deborah Tannen turns her attention to how talk in families works - or fails - to create, complicate, and improve the most intimate relationships.

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don''t Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we''re all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages —unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people''s lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can''t open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

Mieux vivre ensemble, c''est d''abord mieux communiquer. Mots d''amour ou mots d''esprit, la guerre que se livrent homme et femme semble ne connaître aucun répit. Au travail, entre amis, au sein du couple, silences oppressants et paroles anodines rythment cette rivalité sans fin du masculin et du féminin. Deborah Tannen, sociolinguiste, analyse les codes langagiers qui transforment le quotidien des relations entre homme et femme en un vaste champ de bataille. L''auteur traque les causes sociales et culturelles de ce malentendu, source avéré de tant de blessures intimes. En multipliant l''étude de situations concrètes, Deborah Tannen nous apprend à renouer un dialogue trop souvent empêché par un usage maladroit des mots de tous les jours.

Lo importante no es lo que usted dice, sino cómo lo dice. A partir de esta regla de oro, el presente libro asegura que el éxito o el fracaso de una relación -ya sea en el hogar, en el trabajo o en una cita- dependen de nuestro estilo de conversación, del volumen que adopte nuestra voz, del tono, el ritmo y el sentido de nuestras palabras. Tanto en el público como en privado, la consideración de esas maneras de comunicarse, su armonización o enfrentamiento con las de nuestros semejantes, nos conducirá sin duda al aprendizaje de valiosísimos mecanismos para afrontar con éxito estrategias de trabajo, transacciones comerciales y reuniones de todo tipo. En este sentido, usted podrá aprender, entre otras cosas, a: - Comunicarse de manera más efectiva con sus hijos o con su cónyuge, con sus empleados o con su jefe, con sus amigos de siempre o sus nuevas relaciones. - Saber adaptar su ritmo de conversación o los términos que emplea con el fin de alcanzar sus objetivos. - Enfrentarse a los intentos de manipulación por parte de sus interlocutores.

Este libro aborda la enrarecida atmosfera belica que actualmente nos envuelve y nos empuja a contemplar cualquier empresa que debamos llevar a cabo como si se tratara de una peligrosa mision. Esta B+cultura de la polemicaB; nos obliga a contemplar el mundo y sus habitantes como si fueran nuestros enemigos, basandose a la vez en la premisa de que, para conseguir una meta, lo mejor es desplegar una enconada actitud de oposicion frente a todo y frente a todos. Hoy en dia, la mejor forma de profundizar sobre un tema es organizar un debate, y la forma ideal de comunicar una noticia es encontrar portavoces que manifiesten opiniones extremas, pues ello significa presentar B+las dos carasB; del problema. Para resolver una discrepancia, es preciso litigar y situar a los oponentes frente a frente. Para escribir un articulo, lo mejor es empezar rebatiendo a algun autor. Y, para demostrar que se sabe pensar, parece indispensable criticar y atacar. Este tipo de enfoque puede funcionar en algunas ocasiones,pero no por norma general, pues aporta mas problemas que soluciones. Asi, nuestros debates en publico se asemejan cada vez mas a las disputas domesticas: en lugar de intentar comprender al otro, solo pretendemos ganar la batalla. Y, de este modo, cada dia se hace mas necesario un tipo de polemica que exija la elaboracion de argumentos a partir de los diversos puntos de vista y sin que medie la disputa, es decir, sin tener que recurrir a la agresividad. Deborah Tannen es profesora de Linguistica en la Universidad de Georgetown Washington, D.C. . Ademas de escribir en publicaciones como Newsweek, Time, The New York Times o The Washington Post, es tambien autora de libros como B!Yo no quise decireso! o Genero y discurso, ambos igualmente publicados por Paidos.

Kritische evaluatie van de agressieve manier waarop in onze hedendaagse conflictcultuur gecommuniceerd wordt.

Taalsociologische analyse van de communicatie in de werkomgeving.

Your project went off without a hitch--but somebody else got the credit...You averted a crisis brilliantly--but no one noticed...You came to the meeting with a sensational idea--but it was ignored until someone else said the same thing... HOW CAN YOU GET CREDIT & GET AHEAD? In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don''t Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace--where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done. An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women''s and men''s conversational rituals--and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed--an essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women.

Estudiosa internacionalmente reconocida y muy respetada en el terreno de la linguistica. Deborah Tannen debe gran parte de su prestigio a su trabajo sobre la manera en que el lenguaje refleja y afecta a las relaciones entre hombres y mujeres. Ahora, en este libro, reune cinco de sus mas interesantes ensayos sobre lenguaje y genero, y elabora un marco teorico y empirico que cubre un amplio espectro de cuestiones: analiza todo tipo de estrategias conversacionales; se centra en los elementos que pueden influir en el equilibrio de poder; y, por si fuera poco, proporciona un esplendido analisis de cuatro grupos de varones y de mujeres en plena conversacion con sus mejores amigosb& De este modo, no solo se trata de un volumen fascinante para los interesados en una comprension mas profunda y detallada de la obra de Tannen, sino tambien para cualquiera que aliente una cierta curiosidad acerca del papel decisivo, aunque inadvertido, que desempenan el lenguaje y el genero en nuestra vida cotidiana.

Deborah Tannen''s You Just Don''t Understand spent nearly four years (in cloth and paper) on The New York Times Best Seller list and has sold over a million and a half copies. Clearly, Tannen''s insights into how and why women and men so often misunderstand each other when they talk has touched a nerve. For years a highly respected scholar in the field of linguistics, she has now become widely known for her work on how conversational style differences associated with gender affect relationships. Her life work has demonstrated how close and intelligent analysis of conversation can reveal the extraordinary complexities of social relationships--including relationships between men and women. Now, in Gender and Discourse, Tannen has gathered together six of her scholarly essays, including her newest and previously unpublished work in which language and gender are examined through the lens of "sex-class-linked" patterns, rather than "sex-linked" patterns. These essays provide a theoretical backdrop to her best-selling books--and an informative introduction which discusses her field of linguistics, describes the research methods she typically uses, and addresses the controversies surrounding her field as well as some misunderstandings of her work. (She argues, for instance, that her cultural approach to gender differences does not deny that men dominate women in society, nor does it ascribe gender differences to women''s "essential nature.") The essays themselves cover a wide range of topics. In one, she analyzes a number of conversational strategies--such as interruption, topic raising, indirection, and silence--and shows that, contrary to much work on language and gender, no strategy exclusively expresses dominance or submissiveness in conversation--interruption (or overlap) can be supportive, silence and indirection can be used to control. It is the interactional context, the participants'' individual styles, and the interaction of their styles, Tannen shows, that result in the balance of power. She also provides a fascinating analysis of four groups of males and females (second-, sixth-, and tenth-grade students, and twenty-five year olds) conversing with their best friends, and she includes an early article co-authored with Robin Lakoff that presents a theory of conversational strategy, illustrated by analysis of dialogue in Ingmar Bergman''s Scenes from a Marriage. Readers interested in the theoretical framework behind Tannen''s work will find this volume fascinating. It will be sure to interest anyone curious about the crucial yet often unnoticed role that language and gender play in our daily lives.