Most Popular Books by Henry Cloud

An expert on the psychology of leadership and the bestselling author of Integrity, Necessary Endings, and Boundaries For Leaders identifies the critical ingredient for personal and professional wellbeing. Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits. Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives. Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you’re a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don’t have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.

Revised and updated from the original, this honest and forthwright look at families of all shapes and sizes will help you down the path of healing (whether you know you need it or whether you''re just not sure). Unlocking Your Family Patterns combines decades worth of counseling wisdom and pastoral care insights into this one practical resource. Your past may hurt, and your family''s patterns may have left emotional scars, but your future has not been laid in stone yet. There is hope for healing, there are lessons to learn, and there are paths toward family health. Using clinical, biblical and practical examples to help you uncover the patterns your family has lived in, this book might lead you toward the family u-turn you''ve been looking for.

Not everything believed as biblical truth is truly biblical. The co-directors of the Minirth Meier New Life Clinics West debunk 12 commonly accepted beliefs that cause bondage rather than liberty. They explain how nuggets of truth become cornerstones for error when wrongly understood, and they help build solid scriptural foundations that produce emotional freedom.

"Eight principles to take responsibility for your life"--Provided by publisher.

In this Christian alternative to the phenomenal bestseller The Secret, acclaimed author Dr. Henry Cloud helps readers discover truths that make life work and show how faith can guide them in achieving their goals! The Bible claims that God has provided special truths that can change lives and uplift the spirit, but often those truths lie dormant and untapped within the soul. Offering a positive alternative to The Secret based on biblical scripture, Dr. Henry Cloud reveals that there is indeed a power of attraction ruling the universe—the attraction between God and his creation—and demonstrates how that power can shape our lives. With step-by-step practical instructions, this book teaches readers from all walks of life how to apply spiritual truths to real life. Even Christians who think they understand biblical truths often don’t know how to use them. Chapters on happiness, relationships, purpose, and God, share secrets like, “you attract to yourself relationships that fit you,” “whatever you put to use will grow,” and “there is no such thing as disconnected and happy.” The Secret Things of God reveals profoundly simple secrets and gently guides readers toward unlocking the power of these truths in everyday life.

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other''s needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries in Marriage gives you the tools you need. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show you how to apply the principles of boundaries to your marriage. This book helps you understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in your marriage -- and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy you both long for.

Respected counselors, popular radio hosts, and bestselling authors Cloud and Townsend now apply the principles described in their bestselling "Boundaries" to matters of love and romance.

You don’t have to sink or swim in your marriage. Sail off into the sunset with the love of your life. Most marriages need rescue at one time or another. So when you need help, it’s usually due to those thoughtless things you do or say that break the delicate connection between husband and wife.Before you face storms in your marriage (or if you’re already in one), turn to psychologists and best-selling authors Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. They offer real solutions and biblical insight for couples who want to keep the wind in their sails of romance.You’ll fi nd forty practical, irresistible ways to steer clear of, or resolve, all the “dumb” things that can scuttle our most cherished relationship. Insightful advice, along with true stories from the authors’ clinical practice, will strengthen your marriage or help get it back on course. Discover how to... Avoid Bringing Out the Worst in Each Other Get Exactly What You Need Out of Marriage Rebuild Trust After Great Betrayal Reignite Sexual Passion Accept That There Are No Perfect 10s and Very Few 9s Reconnect, Even When All Seems Hopeless Love When You Don’t Even Like Escape Stupid Temptations to Be Unfaithful Whether you’re simply sailing in choppy waters or braving a relational typhoon, reach for this lifeline—Rescue Your Love Life—so you and your mate can recapture the fun, happiness, and romance you deserve.

God made you to dream - and to fulfill those dreams. Clinical psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud offers a new principle or practice each day to help get you closer to becoming the "you" God created you to be. Packed with the insights enjoyed by thousands of women at Women of Faith''s 2007 God Has a Dream for Your Life Pre-conference event! Begin the journey to making your dreams a reality with 30 Days To Your Dreams. A Women of Faith Exclusive!

New York Times bestselling author, psychologist, and leadership expert Henry Cloud equips us to understand and manage trust for successful relationships through five foundational aspects. Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor - art, science, commerce - and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust. It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway. And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward. Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible. Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

The best-selling book God Will Make a Way by Drs. Cloud and Townsend clearly illustrates the often-surprising ways God shows up and addresses our problems in ways we never dreamed possible. This new companion workbook goes even deeper to help readers thrive relationally, emotionally, and spiritually--especially in difficult times.

This companion workbook to the bestselling book offers a hands-on approach to working through the four practical steps to a happier, healthier you.

Many years of counseling have enabled Dr. Henry Cloud to observe people trying to work out the most important issues of life: relationships, career, fulfillment, meaning, pain, hurt, loss, despair, and addictions. If we sincerely want to "get life right" and quit repeating the same mistakes over and over again, 9 Things You Simply Must Do provides the practical guidance we need to live life to its fullest . . . every moment.

When to say yes, when to say no, to help your children gain control of their lives.

Drawing from the latest scientific and psychological research on the quest for happiness, "The Law of Happiness" reveals that the spiritual truths of the Bible hold the secrets to the happiness we desire: choosing to become the kind of people God created us to be.

In this revolutionary new curriculum, Henry Cloud, Bill Donahue, and John Townsend establish a whole new training paradigm---one that equips leaders and groups simultaneously and gives them everything they need to start and sustain a life-changing group. All it requires is a small group and a DVD player. Four sixty-minute sessions train leaders and group members in the foundational values and practices of becoming a life-changing community. These sixty-minute sessions are the foundations of small groups that include teaching by the authors, creative segments, and activities and discussion time. * The group has the chance to review and learn new group life techniques during the year with Thirteen five-minute coaching segments on topics such as active listening, personal sharing, giving and receiving feedback, prayer, calling out the best in others, and more. Each session includes a mix of three elements: * Teaching by the authors * Creative segments (such as modeling dramas, person-on-the-street interviews, personal stories/testimonies, creative multimedia, etc.) * Small group activities and processing/discussion time The four sessions include: * Session 1 provides a foundational experience that helps group members get excited about the adventure and life-changing power of small group life. Exercises and guided discussions create an initial sense of connection, safety, and most of all, fun! * Session 2 focuses on introducing values, ground rules, and logistical issues. Relationships are deepened through the group''s assessment and discussion of the values most important to them, while exercises facilitate group ownership of these issues. * Session 3 unpacks each of the five key values through in-depth teaching and practical examples. Group members learn that all are responsible for implementing the five values in the life of the group, and they practice applying two of the values during the session (''Be real'' and ''accept one another''). * Session 4 transitions the group to running on its own. Exercises help the group clarify what their focus will be, and what they want to do in their next meeting (the first meeting without the DVD curriculum). This session also provides an inspiring wrap-up for the course that casts vision for what the group can become if it lives out its values. The Life-Changing Power of Group Life DVD and Participants Guide are available separately.

A practical handbook on positive confrontation, now available in softcover with a discussion guide.Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don’t know how to have difficult conversations, and see confrontation as scary or adversarial. Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:• Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships• Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation• Provide tips on preparing for the conversation• Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack• Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!

No one has influenced you in the way your mother has. The Mom Factor Workbook helps you identify areas that need reshaping, make choices for personal change, and establish a balanced, mature relationship with your mother today.

When to say yes, when to say no, to help your children gain control of their lives.

Cloud and Townsend debunk some Christian myths, or assumptions, that prevent true healing and spiritual growth. The 12 Assumptions that they deal with include: "It''s selfish to have my needs met," "If I''m spiritual enough, I will have no pain or sinfulness," "If I change my behavior, I will grow spiritually and emotionally," "I just need to give it to the Lord," "One day, I''ll be fimished with recovery," "Leave the past behind," "If I have God, I don''t need people," "''Shoulds'' are good," "Guilt and shame are good for me," "If I make right choices, I will grow spiritually," "Just doing the right thing is more important than why I do it," and "If I know the truth, I will grow" --provided by publisher.

Revised and updated from the original, this honest and forthwright look at families of all shapes and sizes will help you down the path of healing (whether you know you need it or whether yo''re just not sure). Unlocking Your Family Patterns combines decade''s worth of counseling wisdom and pastoral care insights into this one practical resource. Your past may hurt, and your family''s patterns may have left emotional scars, but your future has not been laid in stone yet. There is hope for healing, there are lessons to learn, and there are paths toward family health. Using clinical, biblical and practical examples to help you uncover the patterns your family has lived in, this book might lead you toward the family u-turn you''ve been looking for.

En Integridad, el Dr. Cloud analiza los seis atributos del carácter que definen la integridad. El autor recurre a historias de conocidos líderes del mundo de los negocios, como Michael Dell, y figuras del deporte como Tiger Woods para ilustrar cada uno de estos atributos. El Dr. Cloud describe a la persona íntegra como alguien que:Logra establecer relaciones de confianza con los demásTiende a ser realista Lleva sus proyectos a buen términoNo se deja intimidar por lo negativoTiende al crecimiento Entiende la dimensión trascendenteEl éxito no depende exclusivamente del talento o la capacidad intelectual. Existen muchas personas brillantes y talentosas que nunca llegan a tener éxito. A la vez, las personas más exitosos no siempre son las más talentosas. El factor fundamental, según lo demuestra Cloud, es el carácter de la persona. Todos podemos cultivar esos atributos del carácter que dan como resultado relaciones provechosas y nos permiten concretar nuestro propósito, misión y objetivos. La integridad no es una cualidad que se tiene o no se tiene, sino un apasionante camino de crecimiento que todos podemos transitar y disfrutar.

Del exitoso autor de Límites, Henry Cloud, Cambios necesarios es un libro que fomenta los cambios de mentalidad y que le reta a tomar la iniciativa de podar lo malo y lo que está roto en su vida para dar paso al crecimiento personal y profesional que busca. Aunque los cambios son una parte natural de los negocios y la vida, con frecuencia los enfrentamos con duda, tristeza, resignación y pesar; sin embargo, el doctor Henry Cloud tiene una perspectiva muy diferente acerca de estos. Por eso, en el presente libro señala que nuestra vida personal y profesional solo podrá mejorar cuando logremos cambios necesarios y estratégicos para alcanzar algo superior y abrir el espacio para el crecimiento profesional y personal. Sobre la base de su vasta experiencia como consultor ejecutivo y psicólogo, el autor nos ofrece en este texto intuitivo una serie de consejos y estudios de casos que nos resultarán muy útiles en nuestra vida diaria. Además, nos enseña que para alcanzar la felicidad y el éxito es fundamental saber cuándo y cómo ponerle punto final a algo o alguien que no está funcionando bien en el negocio o en una relación personal, para de esta manera seguir avanzando. Con la lectura de este material tendremos las herramientas necesarias para despedirnos de algo y continuar adelante.

What seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse - "It''s not my fault!" - is often a dangerous trap, says Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, because people don''t recognize what the blaming mindset does to them. It not only keeps them from overcoming the effects of all that they can''t control - like other people, circumstances and genetics - but separates them from a solution. And when they give away the ownership of their life, they end up losing the one opportunity they have to fulfill their dreams and enjoy God''s best. Using eight principles, a variety of true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, Cloud and Townsend enlighten readers on how to make empowering choices - and how to build the life they want to live. It may seem impossible but it''s true: taking personal responsibility is not only liberating, it is the best - and perhaps the only - way for a person to get what they really want out of life.

Nine practical, easy-to-grasp strategies to help readers discover behaviors and responses that successful individuals have in common. Book includes a bonus DVD with a 30-minute presentation of the author, Henry Cloud, speaking on the subject of the book. It also includes a downloadable study guide for the seminar.

No one has influenced the person you are today like your mother. The way she handled your needs as a child has shaped your worldview, your relationships, your marriage, your career, your self-image - your life. How can you identify areas that need reshaping, make positive choices for personal change, and establish a balanced, mature relationship with Mum today? In The Mum Factor, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend steer you down a path of discovery and growth beyond the effects of six common mothering styles: the Phantom Mum, the China Doll Mum, the Controlling Mum, the Trophy Mum, the Still-the-Boss Mum, and the American Express Mum. Cloud and Townsend show you how your mum affected you as a child and may still be affecting you today. You''ll find a hopeful, realistic, and empowering approach to identifying your unmet mothering needs and filling them in healthy, life-changing ways through other people.

Is your life out of control? Do people take advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no? Often, we focus so much on being loving and unselfish that we forget our own limits and limitations. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer insights into how to set boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves. This sequel to the bestselling Boundaries will empower you to take the initiative in creating relationships that are honest, intimate and fulfilling. It is full of practical advice and step-by-step guidance on confronting difficult people who are controlling, manipulative, irresponsible or even abusive.

A practical handbook on positive confrontation by the authors of the award-winning and best-selling Boundaries Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships. They have discovered that uncomfortable---even dangerous---situations can often be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don''t know how to go about having difficult conversations. We see confrontation as scary or adversarial. We''re afraid to ask a boss for a raise or talk to a relative about a drinking problem, or even address a relational conflict with a spouse or someone we are dating. In Boundaries Face to Face authors Cloud and Townsend take the principles from their best-selling book Boundaries and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships. * Explains why confrontation is essential in all arenas of life * Shows how healthy confrontation can improve relationships * Presents the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation * Provides tips on how to prepare for the conversation * Shows how to tell people what you want, how to stop bad behavior, and how to deal with counterattack * Gives actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your boss, your parents, and more From the Book Sometimes people get confused in a confrontation because the other person gets them off track. If that happens, remember this formula. Empathize with their feelings or position, and return to your issue. Here''s an example. Joe: ''I can''t believe you were offended by my comments. You joke around more than anyone here. That''s pretty hypocritical.'' You: ''I understand it''s hard for you to see, and I''m glad you meant it as a joke and weren''t trying to be hurtful. What I''m telling you, though, and what I don''t want you to miss, is how it affected me. It hurt me and I don''t want to be talked to like that.''

You''ve been there-confused, discouraged, wondering how to make it better. Maybe you or someone you know is there right now. According to best-selling authors Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, when you find yourself in that place, you are ready to experience God like never before. The eight "life principles" they introduce here will shine light on your problems and reacquaint you with the One you''ve been looking for all along... the One who will make a way for you and show you the steps to take. -- Back cover

In Growth Has No Boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend give readers age-old keys to growth from the Scriptures, with life applications unique from what many Christians have previously thought and were told.