Best Selling Books by Henry Cloud

Why do some leaders get and accomplish what they want as a matter of routine, while others seem to regularly experience frustration and setbacks? Why do some leaders achieve their goals and reach new heights, while others barely "hang in there" and survive? Based on his groundbreaking psychological study of the ways that successful individuals think and behave, Dr. Henry Cloud presents a simple yet profound roadmap to help leaders-and those who want to become leaders-arrive at greater levels of personal growth and corporate influence than they previously thought were possible. The good news for all of us is that leadership success is not limited to vague notions of "charisma" nor traditional advantages like graduate degrees and connections, but much more to a pattern of thinking and moving forward that learns from mistakes and stays focused on goals.

New York Times bestselling author, psychologist, and leadership expert Henry Cloud equips us to understand and manage trust for successful relationships through five foundational aspects. Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor – art, science, commerce – and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust. It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway. And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward. Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible. Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

A practical guide for individuals and groups designed to help readers to live a more rewarding and fulfilling life both at work and throughout their life. This is the companion workbook to the breakout message proclaimed in The One-Life Solution by Dr. Henry Cloud.

An expert on the psychology of leadership and the bestselling author of Integrity, Necessary Endings, and Boundaries For Leaders identifies the critical ingredient for personal and professional wellbeing. Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits. Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives. Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you’re a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don’t have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.

When to say yes, when to say no, to help your children gain control of their lives.

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other''s needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries in Marriage gives you the tools you need. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show you how to apply the principles of boundaries to your marriage. This book helps you understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in your marriage -- and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy you both long for.

"Eight principles to take responsibility for your life"--Provided by publisher.

God made you to dream - and to fulfill those dreams. Clinical psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud offers a new principle or practice each day to help get you closer to becoming the "you" God created you to be. Packed with the insights enjoyed by thousands of women at Women of Faith''s 2007 God Has a Dream for Your Life Pre-conference event! Begin the journey to making your dreams a reality with 30 Days To Your Dreams. A Women of Faith Exclusive!

This companion workbook to the bestselling book offers a hands-on approach to working through the four practical steps to a happier, healthier you.

Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor - art, science, commerce - and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust. It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway. And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward. Bestselling and beloved author, psychologist, and leadership expert Henry Cloud equips us to understand and manage trust in all our relationships. Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand both what can cause us to exercise faulty judgment in our trust decisions and what can cause us to fail to inspire trust in others. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible. Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

Stop Breathe Listen Be Still In a world that moves too fast and places little value on quiet times, the practice of contemplative prayer offers rest to your soul and invites God''s presence into your life. This thoughtful book, inspired by the best-selling DVD of the same name, invites you into the joy and peace that can be found in the age-old practice of contemplative prayer and features writings from some of today''s most highly respected authors and speakers, including: • Max Lucado • Dr. Henry Cloud • Philip Yancey • Michelle McKinney Hammond • Richard Foster • Dallas Willard • Dr. Calvin Miller • Ken Gire In these pages you will be introduced to the practice of lectio divina, which simply means "sacred reading." Using Scripture and silence, you will learn to invite God''s presence and direction into your life through the thirty-one meditations in this beautifully illustrated book. You don''t have to be a scholar or a saint to experience contemplative prayer or enjoy God''s divine companionship. As you walk through these thirty-one days, you will grow daily into a deeper, more satisfying prayer life with God. Open the book. Be still. Find rest for your soul. Compiled by Amy and Judge Reinhold.

A practical handbook on positive confrontation, now available in softcover with a discussion guide.Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don’t know how to have difficult conversations, and see confrontation as scary or adversarial. Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:• Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships• Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation• Provide tips on preparing for the conversation• Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack• Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!

Whether you’re a new or seasoned group leader, or whether your group is well-established or just getting started, this four-session video-based Bible study (DVD/digital video sold separately) will lead you and your group together to a remarkable new closeness and effectiveness. Designed to foster healthy group interaction and facilitate maximum growth, this innovative approach equips both group leaders and members with essential skills and values for creating and sustaining truly life-changing small groups. Designed for use with the Making Your Small Group Work Video Study (sold separately).

The best-selling book God Will Make a Way by Drs. Cloud and Townsend clearly illustrates the often-surprising ways God shows up and addresses our problems in ways we never dreamed possible. This new companion workbook goes even deeper to help readers thrive relationally, emotionally, and spiritually--especially in difficult times.

No one has influenced you in the way your mother has. The Mom Factor Workbook helps you identify areas that need reshaping, make choices for personal change, and establish a balanced, mature relationship with your mother today.

When to say yes, when to say no, to help your children gain control of their lives.

Cloud and Townsend debunk some Christian myths, or assumptions, that prevent true healing and spiritual growth. The 12 Assumptions that they deal with include: "It''s selfish to have my needs met," "If I''m spiritual enough, I will have no pain or sinfulness," "If I change my behavior, I will grow spiritually and emotionally," "I just need to give it to the Lord," "One day, I''ll be fimished with recovery," "Leave the past behind," "If I have God, I don''t need people," "''Shoulds'' are good," "Guilt and shame are good for me," "If I make right choices, I will grow spiritually," "Just doing the right thing is more important than why I do it," and "If I know the truth, I will grow" --provided by publisher.

Revised and updated from the original, this honest and forthwright look at families of all shapes and sizes will help you down the path of healing (whether you know you need it or whether yo''re just not sure). Unlocking Your Family Patterns combines decade''s worth of counseling wisdom and pastoral care insights into this one practical resource. Your past may hurt, and your family''s patterns may have left emotional scars, but your future has not been laid in stone yet. There is hope for healing, there are lessons to learn, and there are paths toward family health. Using clinical, biblical and practical examples to help you uncover the patterns your family has lived in, this book might lead you toward the family u-turn you''ve been looking for.

In a mad-dash world filled with long to-do lists and too many commitments, it''s easy for one to lose perspective of what matters most-even with the most important person in one''s life. It gets even more complicated with all of the distractions that seem to keep our attention away from sources of help and renewal. That''s why Cloud & Townsend have teamed up to pack their very best relationship principles in a powerful 21-day program designed for today''s busy couples. Each short chapter has to-the-point wisdom and do-it-today action steps on issues like committing to personal growth, breaking the pattern of trying to change one''s spouse, building-and restoring-trust, cultivating healthy intimacy, establishing realistic expectations, learning to handle conflict without damaging the relationship, and much more.

Becoming an Adult focuses on the growth, connecting, separating, and choices that every human being must go through. Dr. Henry Cloud highlights key issues that individuals face as they are tasked with navigating adulting. Some of the topics discussed are: dependency, authority, and boundaries. reevaluating beliefs, decision making, and discipline. sexuality, fear of disapproval, and guilt. Dr. Cloud teaches us how to become a healthy, productive, and faithful adult in society. With clear, insightful, and easy-to-follow guidelines, Dr. Cloud is a relatable and trustworthy voice. After reading Becoming an Adult, readers will: learn how to bond with others and strengthen their existing relationships. be able to separate from others and identify a better sense of self. grow emotionally and spiritually. identify how to make their own path that aligns with their interests and beliefs.

What seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse - "It''s not my fault!" - is often a dangerous trap, says Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, because people don''t recognize what the blaming mindset does to them. It not only keeps them from overcoming the effects of all that they can''t control - like other people, circumstances and genetics - but separates them from a solution. And when they give away the ownership of their life, they end up losing the one opportunity they have to fulfill their dreams and enjoy God''s best. Using eight principles, a variety of true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, Cloud and Townsend enlighten readers on how to make empowering choices - and how to build the life they want to live. It may seem impossible but it''s true: taking personal responsibility is not only liberating, it is the best - and perhaps the only - way for a person to get what they really want out of life.

Is your life out of control? Do people take advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no? Often, we focus so much on being loving and unselfish that we forget our own limits and limitations. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer insights into how to set boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves. This sequel to the bestselling Boundaries will empower you to take the initiative in creating relationships that are honest, intimate and fulfilling. It is full of practical advice and step-by-step guidance on confronting difficult people who are controlling, manipulative, irresponsible or even abusive.

Nine practical, easy-to-grasp strategies to help readers discover behaviors and responses that successful individuals have in common. Book includes a bonus DVD with a 30-minute presentation of the author, Henry Cloud, speaking on the subject of the book. It also includes a downloadable study guide for the seminar.

A practical handbook on positive confrontation by the authors of the award-winning and best-selling Boundaries Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships. They have discovered that uncomfortable---even dangerous---situations can often be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don''t know how to go about having difficult conversations. We see confrontation as scary or adversarial. We''re afraid to ask a boss for a raise or talk to a relative about a drinking problem, or even address a relational conflict with a spouse or someone we are dating. In Boundaries Face to Face authors Cloud and Townsend take the principles from their best-selling book Boundaries and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships. * Explains why confrontation is essential in all arenas of life * Shows how healthy confrontation can improve relationships * Presents the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation * Provides tips on how to prepare for the conversation * Shows how to tell people what you want, how to stop bad behavior, and how to deal with counterattack * Gives actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your boss, your parents, and more From the Book Sometimes people get confused in a confrontation because the other person gets them off track. If that happens, remember this formula. Empathize with their feelings or position, and return to your issue. Here''s an example. Joe: ''I can''t believe you were offended by my comments. You joke around more than anyone here. That''s pretty hypocritical.'' You: ''I understand it''s hard for you to see, and I''m glad you meant it as a joke and weren''t trying to be hurtful. What I''m telling you, though, and what I don''t want you to miss, is how it affected me. It hurt me and I don''t want to be talked to like that.''

You''ve been there-confused, discouraged, wondering how to make it better. Maybe you or someone you know is there right now. According to best-selling authors Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, when you find yourself in that place, you are ready to experience God like never before. The eight "life principles" they introduce here will shine light on your problems and reacquaint you with the One you''ve been looking for all along... the One who will make a way for you and show you the steps to take. -- Back cover

In Growth Has No Boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend give readers age-old keys to growth from the Scriptures, with life applications unique from what many Christians have previously thought and were told.